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July 9, 2020
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  • male announcer: This programis brought to you
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  • by the partners and friendsof Creflo Dollar Ministries.
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  • Coming up next on"Changing Your World."
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  • Creflo Dollar: God speaksto us through his Word, yes.
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  • God speaks to us and dealswith us through prayer, yes.
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  • God speaks and deals with usthrough worship, and God also
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  • speaks and deals with usthrough other believers.
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  • So get a hold of that.
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  • Don't have it set in your mindthat I'm a island all to myself
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  • and I can just do it by myself.
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  • God can bless youthrough relationships.
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  • Even though you had a bad one,even though maybe your fracture
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  • came from a bad relationships,God can use the community of the
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  • called out ones and he can usethe church and believers in
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  • fellowship to help you inthis journey of your healing.
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  • Creflo: Well, if you haveyour Bibles this morning, we've
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  • been talking about deliverancefrom brokenness and, hopefully,
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  • you've understood how importantit is for you to address
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  • this issue.
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  • I know a lot of times peoplesay, "Well, I'm not broken.
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  • What--I don't needto hear this."
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  • And I'm telling you right nowthat there's one thing that you
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  • will not be able to escape inthis life and I'm gonna tell you
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  • right now, no one makesit through life
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  • avoiding brokenness.
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  • And, you know, we're not talkingabout, you know, just having
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  • those really rough times butJesus died for the broken.
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  • And so, before I read our firstScripture I wanna look at some
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  • of the definitions that we haveused to define brokenness and
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  • we'll talk about how to gethealed from it today and spend
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  • our time on that.
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  • So we started off defining truebrokenness as a tool by which
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  • God brings his wandering sheepback into his loving arms.
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  • And that brokenness is havingbeen fractured or damaged or no
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  • longer in one piece or itliterally means, you know,
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  • fractured or broken ornot in working order.
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  • We also looked at brokenness asflawed condition of humanity,
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  • not just particular people buta flawed condition of humanity
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  • that creates a tendency or apropensity for people to hurt
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  • themselves and then at thesame time hurt other people.
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  • And I made a statement thatyou will not be able to make
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  • progress above the level ofyour unresolved brokenness.
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  • You can't allow the brokennessthat happened when you were 8
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  • continue to live in yourlife today when you're 40.
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  • So that's so very important.
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  • We also defined the brokennessas the fundamental disorder that
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  • exists in creations that affectsa person's relationship and it
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  • affects a person's behavior.
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  • In other words, we talkedabout brokenness as being a
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  • fundamental disorder that cameas a result of the disorder that
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  • Satan caused inthe Garden of Eden.
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  • And, you know, you may be healedof brokenness right now, you may
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  • not be going through it, butsometime in your life you've had
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  • to deal with that and theremay be some times in the future
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  • you're having to deal with that.
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  • I mean, dealing with thiscoronavirus is one of those
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  • areas that a lot of people havesuffered fracture and things
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  • have happened as a result ofthis, emotionally, some of 'em,
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  • and physically.
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  • Some people have passed on.
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  • But now it's time to talk abouthow do we get healed from that.
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  • It's time to talk about healingfrom a broken heart, healing
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  • from that fracture.
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  • And so we're gonna look at thattoday and I wanna start off
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  • because I left off last weektalking about how God will use
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  • relationships to helprestore you in this area.
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  • But I wanna look at Psalm 71,verse 20, in the New Living
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  • Translation, because I wannapick up with that as we move
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  • into healing from brokenness.
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  • But God can heal relationshipsand can use relationships to
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  • help us to heal from thatbecause God can work through
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  • people to help you.
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  • It's not a good idea for you todecide not to have anything to
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  • do with anybody and just thinkthat you're just gonna,
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  • you know, get healedon your own.
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  • But I wanna show you that justbecause you've experienced some
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  • bad relationships, it doesn'tmean that God can't use
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  • relationships to benefit you.
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  • Look at what he says herein Psalm 71, verse 20.
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  • He says, "You have allowed meto suffer much hardship, but you
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  • will restore me to life againand you will lift me up from the
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  • depths of the earth."
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  • I mean, that's encouraging, thathe's allowed you to suffer much
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  • hardship but he willrestore you again.
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  • And I wanna encourageyou with that.
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  • God is in the business ofrestoration and that, no matter
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  • where you are and what'shappened, the hardships that
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  • you've gone through, the pitthat you've fallen in, the
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  • promise is that God will restoreyou and he will lift you
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  • up again.
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  • And so, he will userelationships to do that.
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  • He will use relationshipsto restore you.
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  • He will use relationshipsto lift you up again.
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  • And so God has created us inhis image for relationships.
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  • And much of the healing offeredby God is only possible in and
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  • through a communityof believers.
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  • Now, there's no such thing as abeing who will decide to himself
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  • that I'm gonna--I'm justgonna do this by myself.
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  • There's just no such thing asbeing a vibrant, growing, lone
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  • ranger Christian.
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  • As believers, we need to ask Godto help us to be vulnerable and
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  • to join with other believers onthis journey towards wholeness.
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  • So God's Spirit dwells inthe heart of every believer.
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  • And a significant part of hisministry is done in and through
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  • each one of us in the contextof community, in the context of
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  • church, in the contextof the called out ones.
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  • And though most of our emotionalproblems are either rooted or
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  • affected by personalrelationships, healing from
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  • emotional pain is also mosteffective when it is done in the
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  • context of aninterpersonal relationship.
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  • So God will use relationships.
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  • He will do a significant workthrough somebody else to help
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  • you to be delivered and to behealed from any brokenness or
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  • fracture in your life.
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  • Now, as relational beings madein God's image, we grow best in
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  • relationship with others.
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  • Now, listen to this now.
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  • Relationships are the contextin which spiritual growth and
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  • change takes place.
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  • Relationships, it's the contextby which spiritual growth and
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  • change takes place.
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  • That's why it wasn't goodfor Adam to be alone.
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  • See, as long as you're byyourself and there's nobody
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  • there speaking into your life ornobody there that you can trust
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  • to give you an honest view ofwhat's going on in your life,
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  • it's gonna be hard for you togrow because everything's gonna
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  • be about you.
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  • You'll be self-centered, you'rein the center of the circle the
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  • whole time.
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  • But relationships are used byGod and relationships are the
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  • context in which spiritualgrowth can take place and change
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  • can take place.
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  • So through true wholeness isfound in Christ--even though we
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  • know that true wholenessis found in Christ, I mean,
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  • wholeness is something that'salready been made available and
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  • true wholeness can onlybe found in Jesus Christ.
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  • That is true, but God uses humancare and ministry to assist us
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  • on our journey.
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  • God uses people.
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  • God uses relationships to assistus in our journey of healing.
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  • God speaks to usthrough his Word, yes.
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  • God speaks to us and dealswith us through prayer, yes.
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  • God speaks and deals with usthrough worship, and God also
  • 00:10:10.389 --> 00:10:15.661
  • speaks and deals with usthrough other believers.
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  • So get a hold of that.
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  • Don't have it set in your mindthat I'm a island all to myself
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  • and I can just do it by myself.
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  • God can bless youthrough relationships.
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  • Even though you had a bad one,even though maybe your fracture
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  • came from a bad relationships,God can use the community of the
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  • called out ones and he can usethe church and believers in
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  • fellowship to help you inthis journey of your healing.
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  • So let's talk about that.
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  • Let's talk about healingfrom a broken heart.
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  • Now, I want you to listento this very carefully.
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  • Although we were created forrelationships, one result of the
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  • Fall is that we function inbroken ways in relationships.
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  • And that's principally becauseour focus is on ourselves and
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  • it's on our needs, rather thanon others and on their needs.
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  • On ourselves and on our needs,rather than on others and on
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  • their needs.
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  • Look at Philippians chapter 2,verses 2--verses 3 through 4.
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  • Philippians 2, verses 3 through4, and I'm gonna look at this
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  • out of the King James andthe New Living Translation.
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  • So what do we need to do?
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  • What does the Bible have to sayabout this, about us not being
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  • so focused on our needs andwhat's going on in our lives?
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  • He said this in the King James:"Let not--let nothing be done
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  • through strife or vainglory; butin lowliness of mind let each
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  • esteem others betterthan themselves."
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  • Verse 4: "Look not every man onhis own things, but every man
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  • also on the thingsof others," wow.
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  • See, when we are woundedin relationships through
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  • abandonment or death or divorceor betrayal or abuse, those
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  • wounds can run deep and yet, atthe same time, we're tempted to
  • 00:12:17.149 --> 00:12:20.920
  • just focus on us.
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  • Look at this in the New LivingTranslation, the same Scripture,
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  • Philippians 2:3 through 4:"Don't be selfish; don't try to
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  • impress others," wow.
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  • "Be humble, thinking of othersas better than yourselves."
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  • Verse 4: "Don't look--don't lookout only for your own interests,
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  • but take an interestin others, too."
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  • Like I said last week, I thinkit's the boomerang effect.
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  • I think when we begin to focusin on somebody else's hurt,
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  • that's when healingshows up in our own life.
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  • When we begin to focus in onwhat's going on in somebody
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  • else's situation, that's whenGod can deal with our situation.
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  • And so, pain can bedescribed as an unusual gift.
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  • Think of that.
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  • Pain can be described as anunusual gift because pain
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  • demands the attention thatis crucial to my recovery.
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  • Sometimes, people have painin their physical body.
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  • When they pay attention to it,then it moves them to go and
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  • check it out, it'san unusual gift.
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  • And like physical pain,emotional pain awakens our
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  • senses and when we ignore thepain or we seek relief from the
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  • pain and we try to get itthrough alcohol and we try to
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  • get it through drugs and food,we try to get that relief
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  • through work, we try to getit through new relationships,
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  • what's happening is we're onlygonna be helped for a time.
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  • You know, it seems like--itseems like maybe those things
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  • can kind of dull things and dullthe emotions for a time, but
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  • you're not really--you're notreally being healed of it.
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  • You're not reallybeing free from it.
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  • Look at Psalms 147 and verse 3.
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  • You're not being healed orfreed from it, this unusual gift
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  • called pain, wow.
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  • And we wanna get healed from it.
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  • We don't wanna just coverit up through those
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  • addictive behaviors.
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  • Look at verse 3.
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  • He says, "He healeth the brokenin heart, and he bindeth up
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  • their wounds."
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  • So that's the Word of the Lordthat you can be healed of a
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  • broken heart.
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  • You can be healed of thewound that's in your life.
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  • No matter when it occurred orwhat, you know, what stage of
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  • your life that it occurred.
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  • The promise from God is,"I'll heal you from your
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  • broken heart."
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  • The promise from God is,"I'll bind up your wounds."
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  • Now, in order to experiencegenuine healing, you and I, we
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  • must face our pain directly and,in so doing, we're taking an
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  • active step in beginning thehealing process when we decide,
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  • "I'm gonna facemy pain directly."
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  • You know, so many Christians, Idon't know, they just--we cannot
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  • live our lives kind of actinglike stuff's not there.
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  • We cannot live our life, youknow, pretending, you know,
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  • that, you know, I don't have anywounds and pretending, you know,
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  • that I don't have any fracturein my life, I don't have any
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  • pain that I'm dealingwith in my life.
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  • We gotta face it.
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  • We gotta face it, wegotta begin to look at it.
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  • I think that's gonna be thestart of a healing process.
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  • So we begin the processby examining those wounds.
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  • Instead of pretending that somethings don't really hurt, we
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  • need to examine them.
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  • We need to look directly at thepain and admit how much it does
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  • hurt.
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  • Now, I know that sounds contraryto faith but you gotta locate
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  • yourself first because whetherwe acknowledge our pain or not,
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  • old wounds have a way ofresurfacing in our lives.
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  • And so this is whatI'm talking about.
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  • I'm talking about how to behealed from these wounds, how to
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  • be healed from this brokennessso it's not reoccurring in your
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  • life over and over again.
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  • So I wanna share with you foursteps in this healing process of
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  • a wounded heart.
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  • What are these four things thatI'll identify to you today and
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  • what you need to begin to startdoing where dealing with your
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  • wounded heart?
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  • Well, the first one is, youknow, when we have been wounded
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  • in relationships, when we'vebeen wounded in loss, when we've
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  • been wounded in rejection, whenwe've been wounded in abuse.
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  • See, I want you to know that,you know, for those who say,
  • 00:17:04.036 --> 00:17:07.439
  • "Well, I don't have any woundsor anything," I mean, surely
  • 00:17:07.473 --> 00:17:10.242
  • you've lost someone or someone'spassed or surely there's been a
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  • time where you've been rejectedand you wanna pretend like it
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  • really didn't affect you at allor maybe there are some times
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  • where you've been abused.
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  • I think the first step towardshealing is acknowledging
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  • the wound.
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  • It's not only acknowledging thewound, it's being willing to
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  • examine the wound.
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  • To acknowledge the wound,I think, is the first step.
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  • You gotta locate yourself.
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  • Even when we used to teach onthe born again process, the
  • 00:17:38.770 --> 00:17:41.406
  • first step was to admitthat you were a sinner.
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  • You know, well, I wanna askJesus to come in my life."
  • 00:17:44.443 --> 00:17:47.813
  • Well, do you know whereyou are right now?
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  • Do you know what's goingon in your life right now?
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  • Can you come to the place ofadmitting that I am a sinner and
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  • I am in need of Jesus Christ?
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  • Well, it's similar here.
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  • Coming to a place whereyou acknowledge the wound.
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  • Coming to a place where youcan say, "Yeah, I'm hurt.
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  • I'm--I feel rejected.
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  • I've always felt rejected, I--"
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  • There's something about comingto that place and acknowledging
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  • those things first.
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  • True healing requiresthat we examine the wound.
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  • We need to fullyunderstand why we hurt.
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  • True healing requires that weallow others to share our pain
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  • and walk us through it and it'shere where we can begin to clean
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  • out the wound.
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  • Look at what the Scripturesays in Galatians chapter 6.
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  • I'm gonna read it in the NLT.
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  • Galatians 6, verses 1 through 3.
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  • I think as you begin to not onlyyou acknowledge the wound but,
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  • you know, using this--theserelationships, these healthy
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  • good relationships, to begin tohelp clean it out, look at what
  • 00:18:52.611 --> 00:18:57.916
  • the Scripture says here.
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  • I just had a second thoughtwhen I looked at this.
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  • In the New Living Translation,he says, "Dear brothers and
  • 00:19:01.853 --> 00:19:03.622
  • sisters, if another believer isovercome by some sin, you who
  • 00:19:03.655 --> 00:19:07.426
  • are godly should gently andhumbly help that person back on
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  • the right path."
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  • Verse 2: "And be careful not tofall into the same temptation,"
  • 00:19:13.899 --> 00:19:19.304
  • test or trial, "yourself.
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  • Share each other's burdens,and in this way obey the law of
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  • Christ," which is love.
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  • "If you think you are tooimportant to help someone, you
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  • are only fooling yourself.
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  • You are not thatimportant," wow.
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  • You are not that important whereyou think you're too important
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  • to help somebody else.
  • 00:19:45.530 --> 00:19:48.700
  • You see, none of us, asbelievers, are so independently
  • 00:19:48.734 --> 00:19:52.037
  • sufficient in and of ourselvesspiritually that we are beyond
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  • the need of others in our lives.
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  • And that's just theway God designed us.
  • 00:20:01.380 --> 00:20:03.782
  • We are dependent creatures.
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  • And, you know, dependentto maintain otherwise
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  • and to us--for us to go aroundotherwise and to stubbornly
  • 00:20:10.922 --> 00:20:14.226
  • walk through life aloneis just not advised.
  • 00:20:14.259 --> 00:20:18.063
  • And there are just too manypeople that are doing that.
  • 00:20:18.096 --> 00:20:20.032
  • They try to walk through lifealone and, you know, this is
  • 00:20:20.065 --> 00:20:23.168
  • gonna bring up a point where I'mgonna have to teach on how to
  • 00:20:23.201 --> 00:20:25.704
  • develop healthy relationshipsbecause relationships, it's
  • 00:20:25.737 --> 00:20:29.274
  • God's will and you've gotto make sure that you don't
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  • substitute good healthyrelationships and ignore the
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  • fact that we are relationalbeings and, you know, just kind
  • 00:20:36.048 --> 00:20:40.419
  • of become this loner and becomea hermit and that's just not the
  • 00:20:40.452 --> 00:20:46.024
  • will of God for your life.
  • 00:20:46.058 --> 00:20:48.493
  • Now, let's look at the secondstep here in this process of
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  • healing a broken heart.
  • 00:20:50.796 --> 00:20:52.264
  • So the first step here isgot to acknowledge the wound.
  • 00:20:52.297 --> 00:20:55.300
  • You've got to--you've got toexamine the wound, you've got
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  • to, you know, get with otherpeople and people that you have
  • 00:20:58.270 --> 00:21:01.506
  • good relationshipwith, somebody.
  • 00:21:01.540 --> 00:21:03.809
  • If you can't even find thatperson, then get a therapist or
  • 00:21:03.842 --> 00:21:06.678
  • somebody, somebody that can helpyou examine this wound and walk
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  • you out of that situation.
  • 00:21:09.314 --> 00:21:11.717
  • Now, number two, now in order toheal from relational wounds of
  • 00:21:11.750 --> 00:21:16.588
  • the past, we need toidentify--number two, we need to
  • 00:21:16.621 --> 00:21:21.059
  • identify and let go of thoserelational patterns we fall into
  • 00:21:21.093 --> 00:21:26.932
  • that reopen old wounds evenin current relationships.
  • 00:21:26.965 --> 00:21:32.838
  • So the second process here is Ineed to identify and I need to
  • 00:21:32.871 --> 00:21:39.277
  • let go of those relationalpatterns that we fall into,
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  • those relational patterns thatseem to bring us back and reopen
  • 00:21:43.915 --> 00:21:49.855
  • some of those old woundsin those relationships.
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  • You have to begin to lookat--you have to look at what is
  • 00:21:55.227 --> 00:21:58.563
  • it--what am I doing in everyrelationship that allows me to
  • 00:21:58.597 --> 00:22:02.000
  • always end up in the same spot?
  • 00:22:02.033 --> 00:22:04.770
  • What's going on in thisrelationship, the same thing
  • 00:22:04.803 --> 00:22:08.607
  • that went on in the lastrelationship, the same thing
  • 00:22:08.640 --> 00:22:10.642
  • that's gonna--and itreopens the same wound.
  • 00:22:10.675 --> 00:22:13.678
  • You've got to identify thosethings because a safe and
  • 00:22:13.712 --> 00:22:17.482
  • trusting relationship is thebest place to explore those
  • 00:22:17.516 --> 00:22:20.919
  • relational patterns.
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  • And then, like I said before,to have a relationship, even if
  • 00:22:25.257 --> 00:22:29.027
  • it's a counselor or a trustedfriend, you need someone who
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  • will be honest with you.
  • 00:22:33.198 --> 00:22:35.734
  • I said you need someone who willbe honest with you and can help
  • 00:22:35.767 --> 00:22:39.738
  • you get outside yourself toexamine objectively the harmful
  • 00:22:39.771 --> 00:22:44.876
  • patterns that are replacingthemselves and replaying
  • 00:22:44.910 --> 00:22:48.180
  • themselves and reoccurring inyour life over and over and
  • 00:22:48.213 --> 00:22:52.217
  • over again.
  • 00:22:52.250 --> 00:22:54.519
  • Who in your life can you trustto tell you, "Dude, you keep
  • 00:22:54.553 --> 00:22:58.089
  • doing the samething over again"?
  • 00:22:58.123 --> 00:23:01.026
  • Or "You keep--you'rereplaying the same thing.
  • 00:23:01.059 --> 00:23:04.029
  • I remember when you did it,you know, ten years ago.
  • 00:23:04.062 --> 00:23:06.765
  • I remember when you did itbefore you got your divorce.
  • 00:23:06.798 --> 00:23:09.134
  • You keep doing the same thingover and over and over again."
  • 00:23:09.167 --> 00:23:12.304
  • See, when you have a supportiveand a trusted person in your
  • 00:23:12.337 --> 00:23:15.540
  • corner to talk and to praywith, that's very essential.
  • 00:23:15.574 --> 00:23:20.479
  • That's very important.
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  • Somebody in your lifethat can confront you.
  • 00:23:23.048 --> 00:23:26.051
  • Look at Philippianschapter 3:13.
  • 00:23:26.084 --> 00:23:28.753
  • Let's look at it in theNew Living Translation.
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  • "But that ain't Bible."
  • 00:23:30.689 --> 00:23:32.691
  • Look at Philippians 3:13in New Living Translation.
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  • He says this.
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  • He says, "No, dear brotheror--and sister, I have not
  • 00:23:36.595 --> 00:23:38.630
  • achieved it, but I focus on thisone thing: I'm forgetting the
  • 00:23:38.663 --> 00:23:41.633
  • past and are lookingforward to what lies ahead."
  • 00:23:41.666 --> 00:23:45.003
  • All right, so you're dealingwith somebody, they don't have
  • 00:23:45.036 --> 00:23:48.240
  • it all together.
  • 00:23:48.273 --> 00:23:50.408
  • They're, you know, theyhadn't achieved everything.
  • 00:23:50.442 --> 00:23:52.577
  • And what they're doing isthey're saying, you know, "I'm
  • 00:23:52.611 --> 00:23:54.813
  • gonna forget about some thingsand I'm gonna focus on what I
  • 00:23:54.846 --> 00:23:57.082
  • need to focus on, but I'm gonnago forward and do
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