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  • in the world.
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  • The church is where it happens.
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  • The church is where we find purpose and meaning and power.
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  • The church is the living breathing body of Christ.
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  • Wisdom though is seeing life through the perspective of God.
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  • You've never locked eyes with someone that Jesus did not
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  • die for.
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  • Ed: Thanks for tuning in to "Ed Young Television."
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  • The next 27 minutes and 30 seconds will change your life.
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  • We're going to open God's Word and teach you some things
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  • about what it means to live on the rugged plains of reality
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  • as we walk in concert with Jesus.
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  • Hey, thanks for watching.
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  • Thanks for your generosity.
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  • Check this out because it will cause a seismic shift to take
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  • place in your life.
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  • Watch this.
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  • Ed: A while back I was putting gas in my car, which is
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  • something that everyone does.
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  • And while I was gassing up my car, I looked and I saw a man
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  • with a giant doberman on a leash.
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  • And he was walking across this busy intersection.
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  • And I watched this happen while I'm again at the gas tank
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  • and the Guy walked right near me, hooked up his doberman
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  • to bench that was like cemented in the ground in front
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  • of the convenience store, then he walked in.
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  • So, I'm still like at the car checking the doberman
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  • out because I love dogs.
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  • And for some reason something startled this dog.
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  • I don't know what happened.
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  • The dog began to freak and when he freaked, he pulled toward
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  • the traffic.
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  • He pulled with such force that it tore out the park bench
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  • from the cement.
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  • This giant doberman was dragging this park bench, sparks flying,
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  • right toward the sea of traffic.
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  • And I thought to myself I'm going to see-- I'm going to see
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  • a collision that's going to be absolutely epic.
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  • It's going to be horrible.
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  • I was like closing my eyes but I had one eye open and the cars
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  • were stopping, they were skidding.
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  • You know the horns were blaring and I watch this dog weave
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  • in and out of traffic slinging this park bench
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  • into the vehicles.
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  • Totally destroying like three cars.
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  • I want to talk to you about something that ruins
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  • lives, that wrecks marriages, that blows up companies,
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  • and schools, and sports teams.
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  • I want to talk to you about unforgiveness.
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  • A lot of us are leashed up to unforgiveness.
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  • And we're dragging, that's right, not a park bench,
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  • but people sitting on a park bench behind us and it's causing
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  • major collateral damage in our lives.
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  • Are you like that doberman?
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  • Could it be that you're leashed up to unforgiveness?
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  • Moreover, who was on the park bench?
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  • Maybe it can be a parent.
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  • Maybe it could be a teacher.
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  • Maybe it could be a coach.
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  • Maybe it could be someone who took advantage of you.
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  • Maybe it could be someone who hurt you.
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  • Maybe your ex spouse is on this park bench.
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  • Who are you dragging around?
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  • Who?
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  • That's right, who is sitting on your park bench?
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  • I have to admit to you unleashing unforgiveness is
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  • unnatural.
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  • I don't like it.
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  • Quite frankly, I like to say you know what?
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  • You hurt me.
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  • I'm gonna wait and I'm gonna make you pay.
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  • It's so interesting is it not?
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  • Because when we leash up to unforgiveness not only do
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  • we drag around people, we also have these these feelings
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  • of resentment, anger, animosity.
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  • When we're leashed up to unforgiveness we're
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  • putting the leash in the hands of others and they control our
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  • lives.
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  • I have to laugh at Simon Peter, you know Simon Peter
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  • in the Bible.
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  • He was just a great, great, great personality.
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  • Probably a type A, who knows, sanguine.
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  • He would say one thing, "I'm gonna be with you, Lord.
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  • I've got your back."
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  • And then hours later, he's turning on Jesus, you know
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  • and then Jesus of course forgiving him and Simon Peter
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  • coming clean.
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  • And so, he's someone that we can identify with.
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  • Have you ever asked the question before, I know I have, and when
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  • you ask the question may be in a public setting, you want
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  • to just show people how much you knew about the subject
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  • before you actually asked the question?
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  • Have you ever done that before?
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  • I have.
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  • It's really funny.
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  • The media does it all the time.
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  • They do.
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  • They do.
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  • Well, Simon Peter waded into barracuda infested waters
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  • because he asked this question to Jesus and he wanted to show
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  • everybody how spiritual he was and if you have your Bibles you
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  • want to turn to Matthew.
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  • The Gospel of Matthew, chapter 18.
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  • And here's-- this is what he said, check it out, verse 21,
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  • Simon Peter because he's making some serious assumptions
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  • about today's subject matter.
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  • Assumptions that I've made as well.
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  • "'Lord, how many times,' Simon Peter asked, 'How many times
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  • shall I forgive my brother?'" Oh man, he's Gonna show everybody
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  • how great he is.
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  • "How many times should I forgive my brother when he sins
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  • against me?
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  • Up to seven times?"
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  • He wanted people to go, "Wow, what a man of God.
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  • Saint Peter.
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  • Whew.
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  • You are something else."
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  • Because see, during this context, when rabbis talked
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  • about forgiveness, they usually said okay, if you forgive
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  • someone three times, that's monster forgiveness.
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  • Simon Peter asks Jesus, "Hey, how many times should I forgive
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  • someone?"
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  • Obviously someone had messed him around.
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  • "Like seven times?"
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  • Simon Peter thought that that this whole forgiveness thing was
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  • more for the person who has offended you than the person
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  • who's been offended.
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  • Maybe just maybe forgiveness and dealing with unforgiveness
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  • is more for those who have been offended.
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  • And you might be saying well they had the person sitting
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  • on this bench died five years ago.
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  • And if you really think about it maybe the people lined
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  • up on your park bench have kind of-- have kinda checked out.
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  • They don't even realize that they betrayed you, or hurt you,
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  • or knifed you in the back.
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  • Given this it's a deep subject.
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  • So Jesus launches into this story and this is a heavy story.
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  • And it's found in Matthew chapter 18.
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  • And let me just give you the cliff notes of it.
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  • Jesus said there was this wealthy guy, wealthy king,
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  • and he was checking out all of his, you know, all of his
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  • investments.
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  • And he had all of the accountants
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  • and the lawyers in the room.
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  • And he was talking to them and they were goin' through all
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  • of these things in this long, long meeting.
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  • And one account said, "King, by the way, there's one guy that
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  • owes you ten million dollars and we've not heard anything
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  • about him.
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  • We don't know where the guy is.
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  • We've received no payments ten million dollars."
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  • Now, ten million is no chump change, is it?
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  • Well the king finds this guy, calls him into his office.
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  • He goes, "Okay, it's payday.
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  • Pay up man.
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  • I gave you ten million dollars, there's a debt.
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  • A ten million dollar debt you owe me.
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  • You owe me big time.
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  • Okay, pay me the money.
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  • Show me the money," right?
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  • The guy looked at the king, he goes, "I ain't got it.
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  • I mean, I can get it.
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  • I promise you, but right now I don't have it."
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  • Now, back in the day you couldn't file chapter 7, or 11,
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  • or 13.
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  • You couldn't have teams of lawyers to protect.
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  • No, no, no, no, no, no.
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  • If you owed somebody something and couldn't pay it they could
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  • throw you to the torturers man.
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  • It was serious back then.
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  • Well, this king looks at this guy.
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  • Again, I'm giving you the cliff notes.
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  • And he forgives him the ten million.
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  • He goes, "Don't worry about it.
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  • It's all good in the hood, man, ten million just go ahead
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  • and debt is canceled."
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  • Debt is cancelled.
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  • So, here's what Jesus is driving at.
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  • Jesus is driving at we actually create a debt when we mess
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  • someone around.
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  • When we hurt someone.
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  • When we betray someone.
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  • When we take advantage of someone.
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  • When we talk about someone in a negative light or rip them
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  • apart.
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  • We create a debt and the king goes, "Debts canceled."
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  • Now, put yourself in the sandals of this forgiven guy.
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  • How would you feel if you borrowed ten million dollars
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  • from someone and you needed to pay them back, I mean, you
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  • are overdue.
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  • People were chasing you down and then you meet the guy
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  • or the person and they go, "Don't worry about it.
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  • Just enjoy it, man.
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  • Just do what you do.
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  • Today is your day."
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  • Do you know what this cat did?
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  • Yeah, he experienced forgiveness, but he didn't
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  • really live it out.
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  • Intellectually, yeah, and you could say practically a little
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  • bit, but he didn't really have it in his heart and in his life
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  • because this forgiven servant, the ten million dollar man said,
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  • "You know, there's this guy, and I've already done the math,
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  • that owes me $11."
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  • And this guy found him, started choking him, drug him.
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  • The ten million dollar man drug this guy that owed him $11
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  • to the torturers.
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  • And don't you know Simon Peter is going, "Oh, why did I ask
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  • that question?"
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  • The king heard about it.
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  • And you know what happened?
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  • Look at verse 32, Matthew 18.
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  • Then the master called the servant in, this is the ten
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  • million dollar man.
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  • The wicked servant, the Wicked servant said, "'I canceled all
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  • that debt of yours because you begged me to.
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  • Shouldn't you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I
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  • had on you?'
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  • In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be
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  • tortured until he should pay back all he owed."
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  • Notice that debt, see?
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  • All he owed.
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  • This, I mean this is tough here now.
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  • "This is how my heavenly father will treat each of you.
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  • Unless you forgive your brother from your heart."
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  • Isn't it interesting the least invested has the most control
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  • and the most invested oftentimes has the least control?
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  • I mean, God, where are my feelings?
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  • I mean, I gotta feel it, right?
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  • I mean, if I don't feel it I'm not gonna release them.
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  • I'm not gonna forget it.
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  • You'll clock out trying to wait for the feeling.
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  • Do you think Jesus felt like going to that cross?
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  • You think he felt it?
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  • What if he-- that guard, "Whoa, I haven't felt it yet."
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  • Yet in our whack culture it's all about feelings.
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  • No, it's about the will.
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  • The feelings will follow.
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  • It's about the will.
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  • So, if you're waiting to feel this whole forgiveness thing, if
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  • you're waiting to unleash unforgiveness when your emotions
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  • all line up, and you're having a good day.
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  • It's-- I mean, it's not gonna happen.
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  • Amen, this is tough.
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  • This is a tough sermon for me to hear.
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  • Because I like-- I like to be leashed up to unforgiveness.
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  • I'm a competitive guy and I'll wait.
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  • And I want to put it back in your face.
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  • I'll show you.
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  • Yet when I've done that before when I've been leashed
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  • up to unforgiveness and I have.
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  • And I've waited for that time, and I have, that perfect time
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  • and I have.
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  • The person is gone.
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  • The person doesn't give a flying flip.
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  • The person doesn't care.
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  • And sadly, I robbed myself of joy and freedom because of my
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  • resentment.
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  • The word "resentment" in Scripture, we're gonna look
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  • at it in a second, means to feel again.
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  • It means to think again, and again, and again, and again.
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  • Unleashing unforgiveness is unnatural.
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  • But I'm here to tell you unleashing unforgiveness is
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  • unbelievable.
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  • It comes from God.
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  • It's the essence of our faith.
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  • We have to preach the gospel to ourselves every day.
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  • If you're a believer you should do that.
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  • You wake up, preach the gospel to yourself.
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  • Jesus died on the cross for my sins.
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  • He did the forgiveness work, right?
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  • Preemptive forgiveness, you could argue.
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  • Of course, he knew the sins we would commit 'cause God's
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  • sovereign, but he also did that before we committed them in our
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  • mentality.
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  • Yet of course, the sovereignty of God and the free will of man
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  • are those two rivers that only meet in the mind of God.
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  • You'll never ever ever explain that.
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  • Yet Jesus did the preemptive work.
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  • Fully God fully man when he died on the cross for all of the sins
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  • I would commit, you would commit, you would commit, you
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  • would commit.
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  • The sins we commit today, tomorrow, 50 years from now.
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  • Unbelievable and again did he feel like doing it?
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  • No, he did it because he submitted to the will
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  • of the Father and God's will is for us to forgive.
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  • So preach the gospel to yourself.
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  • Jesus died on the cross for my sins.
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  • He rose again and I'm just gonna live that out.
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  • It's the guts of the gospel.
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  • It's the foundation of our faith.
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  • Forgiveness, the word "give" is in it.
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  • I'm giving myself a gift.
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  • And I'm giving others the gift.
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  • Ed: The C3 conference, the Creative Church Conference.
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  • There's no conference like it.
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  • It's two days where it's like drinking out of a fire
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  • hydrant.
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  • I'm gonna be there, my wife will be there, Dr.
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  • Don Lichi, O.S.
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  • Hawkins, Louie Giglio, Phil Dooley, Priscilla Shirer,
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  • and Charles Nieman.
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  • It's going to be great.
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  • We talk about the real and the raw of the church.
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  • We love systems.
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  • We love organization.
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  • But we talk about what happens when you apply some of those
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  • things.
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  • What happens in the trenches of church.
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  • That's C3.
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  • Go to C3Conference.com to register and I'll see you
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  • there.
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  • Ed: He does answer the question in verse 22.
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  • Jesus answered Simon Peter 'cause Simon Peter, remember,
  • 00:18:48.020 --> 00:18:50.130
  • thought three times was monster forgiveness.
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  • And then he threw out seven like people are going to go, "Oh
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  • my gosh.
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  • Hashtag humbled.
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  • You're amazing."
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  • Actually, what Jesus said, "Hey, Simon Peter, you're talking
  • 00:19:01.090 --> 00:19:04.060
  • about seven times like that's super spiritual.
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  • Well, try this one."
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  • Look at verse 22, "I tell you not seven times but seventy
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  • times seven."
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  • Literally, over, and over, and over, and over, and over,
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  • and over, and over.
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  • One of the main line to the Lord's Prayer was when
  • 00:19:26.060 --> 00:19:29.250
  • Jesus said, as he taught us to pray, "forgive us our debts."
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  • Think about the story earlier, debt, debt is created, see that?
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  • Forgive us our debts.
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  • We pray forgive us our debts.
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  • We create debts, right, when we sin, when we mess up, as we also
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  • is contingent upon what?
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  • Have forgiven our debtors.
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  • And you know what the word in the original language means,
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  • forgive?
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  • It means to release.
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  • Even when you don't feel like it.
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  • Even when you're not into it.
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  • Even what even when you don't feel spiritual.
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  • Release, and for many of us we might have to do that every
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  • minute, every hour, every day for a while until what happens?
  • 00:20:22.230 --> 00:20:32.050
  • We do feel it.
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  • Yet we make the decision it's God's will.
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  • We do it and here's the great thing then the feelings
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  • eventually will follow.
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  • So, here's some benefits I just jotted down from Scripture
  • 00:20:44.090 --> 00:20:49.040
  • regarding why you should, I should, unleash unforgiveness.
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  • There's an emotional benefit to it.
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  • Job chapter 5, verse 2.
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  • "Resentment--" told you I'll come to it.
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  • You know what that means to feel again.
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  • "Kills a fool and envy slays the simple."
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  • It can mess your emotions up.
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  • On the other hand, when I release.
  • 00:21:19.200 --> 00:21:23.230
  • When I go, "Okay, I'm releasing it," what happens?
  • 00:21:23.240 --> 00:21:27.170
  • I engage my emotions.
  • 00:21:27.180 --> 00:21:29.260
  • So, often our emotions can be all whack because it's a subject
  • 00:21:29.270 --> 00:21:34.150
  • matter.
  • 00:21:34.160 --> 00:21:35.260
  • Also, relationally.
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  • Ephesians 4:32.
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  • "Be kind and compassionate to one another.
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  • Forgiving just as Jesus forgave you."
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  • Physically, Proverbs chapter 14, verse 30, "A heart at peace.
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  • Peace gives life to the body."
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  • So, this is life giving.
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  • And then Romans 12:19, Don't take revenge, Ed.
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  • Leave, let's say it together, room.
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  • What room?
  • 00:22:08.030 --> 00:22:09.180
  • Running room, and that's an act of faith.
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  • For God's Wrath-- "for it's written it's mine to avenge, I
  • 00:22:12.130 --> 00:22:15.120
  • will repay.
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  • Who can pay back?"
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  • Who's gonna settle the score better, the debt better, me
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  • or God?
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  • No, that's it.
  • 00:22:22.260 --> 00:22:24.050
  • That's an easy answer.
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  • So, all I have to do as a follower of Christ as I'm
  • 00:22:25.170 --> 00:22:32.050
  • thinkin' about this park bench, as I'm thinking about okay, all
  • 00:22:32.060 --> 00:22:37.250
  • the benefits of releasing someone.
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  • I need to consider the cross.
  • 00:22:40.210 --> 00:22:42.010
  • That's the gospel.
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  • Consider the cross.
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  • Also, I've gotta realize and I have a public testimony of this.
  • 00:22:46.150 --> 00:22:49.290
  • I can tell you this from my life.
  • 00:22:50.000 --> 00:22:51.090
  • Resentment doesn't work.
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  • It doesn't.
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  • Also, I will-- I'm just talkin' about myself.
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  • I'll need some serious forgiveness in the future.
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  • I will.
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  • Maybe you don't.
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  • So, who's sitting on your park bench?
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  • You need to release them.
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  • Let go.
  • 00:23:12.270 --> 00:23:15.090
  • Maybe it could be letting go or maybe just maybe you need
  • 00:23:15.100 --> 00:23:18.250
  • to sit down with someone and tell them, "You know what, I
  • 00:23:18.260 --> 00:23:24.190
  • was wrong.
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  • Will you forgive me?"
  • 00:23:26.230 --> 00:23:31.190
  • Now, most of us don't know how to ask someone for forgiveness.
  • 00:23:31.200 --> 00:23:36.000
  • We say, "Hey, I'm, sorry.
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  • My emotions got the best of me."
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  • That's not an apology.
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  • Or, "I apologize."
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  • Or, If "you took it the wrong way."
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  • That is jacked up.
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  • Let's hear you do it.
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  • I was wrong, will you forgive me?
  • 00:24:01.230 --> 00:24:04.090
  • Okay, let's say it, let's put it all together, okay?
  • 00:24:04.100 --> 00:24:07.220
  • I was wrong, will you forgive me?
  • 00:24:07.230 --> 00:24:14.100
  • So, I didn't leave you hanging about this story, one of my
  • 00:24:14.110 --> 00:24:16.250
  • favorite stories I've ever encountered in my life.
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  • What happened?
  • 00:24:18.250 --> 00:24:20.040
  • Well, I'll tell you what happened.
  • 00:24:20.050 --> 00:24:21.280
  • This dog just totally trashed all of these cars and it was
  • 00:24:21.290 --> 00:24:29.130
  • crazy thing.
  • 00:24:29.140 --> 00:24:30.260
  • And because of all of the horn honking and tires screeching
  • 00:24:30.270 --> 00:24:34.270
  • the owner, the master of the dog, came
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  • out of the convenience store, the gas station.
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  • Chased this dog downs, calling it by name.
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  • I forgot the dog's name.
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  • The dog stopped and I watched the master, this dog's master,
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  • unleash the dog from the park bench and I watched him lead
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  • the dog to safety.
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  • When it comes to unforgiveness, our master, Jesus Christ, is
  • 00:25:08.200 --> 00:25:15.160
  • chasing you down.
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  • He's chasing me down.
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  • He's calling us by name.
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  • If we'll stop and turn and allow him to unleash us
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  • from unforgiveness,
  • 00:25:31.150 --> 00:25:36.220
  • our lives will never ever, ever be
  • 00:25:36.230 --> 00:25:42.290
  • the same because unleashing unforgiveness is unnatural.
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  • But when we do it it's unbelievable.
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