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How to Save Your Husband Part 2

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November 20, 2019
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Steven Furtick

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  • - It wasn't convenient
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  • when they mocked Him
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  • and spit on the face
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  • of the radiance of God's glory,
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  • but He had a covenant to keep.
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  • It wasn't convenient
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  • when they drove the nails
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  • through His hands
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  • and through His feet,
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  • but He had a covenant to keep.
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  • It wasn't convenient when
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  • He shed His blood to forgive
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  • you of your sin,
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  • but you're here today
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  • because you have
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  • a covenant-keeping,
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  • promise-keeping,
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  • - I've entitled this message
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  • "How to Save Your Husband",
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  • and it is baffling
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  • to think about how we go
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  • from in a relationship,
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  • having the kind of passion
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  • that would cause two people
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  • to want to merge
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  • their identities, and often that
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  • same relationship,
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  • that same couple will end up
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  • only speaking through attorneys.
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  • How does that happen?
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  • I think there are four things --
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  • we'll do them as quickly
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  • as we can -- that happen
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  • that cause passion to go out.
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  • How does this happen:
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  • Two become one, one become two?
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  • How does something that promises
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  • to bring so much intimacy
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  • end in isolation?
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  • How does something that promises
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  • to bring so much pleasure
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  • end up producing so much pain?
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  • A few observations
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  • from the passage.
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  • One, celebration
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  • becomes frustration.
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  • But if you tolerate what God
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  • has called you to celebrate,
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  • it will eventually frustrate
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  • the relationship.
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  • Let me teach you something.
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  • I didn't make this up,
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  • but it's good.
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  • It's called the 80/20 rule.
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  • 80/20 rule goes like this:
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  • People have a proclivity
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  • to leave the 80 that they love
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  • to try to get the 20
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  • that they want.
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  • Before you leave 80 for 20
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  • in any relationship,
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  • you better make sure that
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  • that 20 is really worth it.
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  • Passion dies out when
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  • "we" becomes "me."
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  • If you're married,
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  • you are not a "me" anymore.
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  • And if you're not ready to
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  • go from "me" to "we"
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  • in every decision, not just,
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  • "Well, I want to get married,
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  • but I still, you know,
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  • I got my own life, too."
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  • No, you don't.
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  • And if that's what you want,
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  • you don't need a marriage.
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  • Passion dies when debtors
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  • become collectors.
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  • How dare you choke somebody else
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  • when God had mercy on you.
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  • How dare you ask God
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  • for patience
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  • and you demand payback.
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  • How dare you bow your knee
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  • to God and then stand over
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  • your brother, your sister,
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  • your husband, your wife,
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  • choking, saying,
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  • "Pay what you owe me."
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  • Sometimes you better get
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  • your hand off your hip
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  • and uncross your arms
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  • and throw your arms
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  • around somebody and say,
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  • "I forgive you
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  • like He forgave me.
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  • I give grace
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  • like I was given grace."
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  • And grace will change a life.
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  • In the Old Testament,
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  • when something unclean --
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  • Paul uses this analogy.
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  • He says the husband
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  • who doesn't believe
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  • is sanctified by the wife
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  • who does believe.
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  • It's not just about you.
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  • The wife who doesn't believe
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  • is sanctified by the husband
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  • who does believe.
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  • It doesn't mean that
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  • your relationship with God
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  • can be transferred
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  • to another person,
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  • but your relationship with God
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  • can transform another person
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  • when they see the example
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  • of the grace that you claim
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  • to have been given operating
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  • toward them.
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  • It'll change them.
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  • It'll change them.
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  • It'll change them.
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  • Nagging won't change them,
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  • fussing won't change them,
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  • demanding won't change them,
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  • but Christ will change them.
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  • Grace is power, grace will wash,
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  • grace will sanctify.
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  • But in the Old Testament --
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  • I'm almost out of time.
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  • You got time?
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  • You got time?
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  • You got time?
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  • Can I tell you?
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  • In the Old Testament,
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  • when the unclean was in
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  • contact with the clean,
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  • like they had all these laws
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  • that when something unclean,
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  • ceremonially unclean,
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  • many issues could cause someone
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  • to be ceremonially unclean.
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  • When the unclean contacted
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  • the clean, in the Old Testament,
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  • the unclean defiled the clean.
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  • But one day -- Jesus changed
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  • this, because one day Jesus
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  • was walking along,
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  • and a woman who had an issue
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  • of blood,
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  • which would have made
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  • her unclean, she came up
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  • on her knees behind Jesus
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  • because she knew she couldn't
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  • approach Him
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  • with equal standing.
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  • She touched the hem
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  • of His garment.
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  • The unclean touched the clean.
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  • But, see, in the Old Testament,
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  • if the priest was clean
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  • and got touched by the unclean,
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  • the unclean
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  • would defile the clean.
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  • What makes Jesus
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  • a great high priest is that
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  • when that unclean woman
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  • touched Him who was the essence
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  • of purity and perfection,
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  • the unclean didn't defile
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  • the clean.
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  • The clean purified the unclean.
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  • Now, if Christ is in you...
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  • Sometimes you got to allow God
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  • to use you to touch
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  • somebody else with
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  • the same grace that He reached
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  • down and rescued you with.
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  • I'm a debtor.
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  • I don't know about you.
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  • I'm a debtor.
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  • I'm not a collector.
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  • I'm a debtor.
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  • I'm not a collector.
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  • I remember that He paid a debt
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  • He didn't owe.
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  • And I owed a debt
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  • that I couldn't pay.
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  • And it's because of His blood
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  • and His righteousness
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  • that I'm counting on every day
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  • when I access --
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  • I access the throne of grace
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  • boldly because Jesus,
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  • my high priest, wasn't afraid
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  • to touch the unclean,
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  • but He touched me
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  • and He changed me
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  • and He made me whole.
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  • And I refuse to hold your sin
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  • against you when God didn't
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  • count my sin against me.
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  • This will change some marriages
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  • if we can become
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  • debtors together.
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  • We all need the same grace.
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  • We're breathing in
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  • the same oxygen that was enabled
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  • by God's grace.
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  • We're all living on
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  • the same stuff.
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  • Let no debt remain outstanding
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  • except the continuing debt
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  • to love one another,
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  • for whoever loves others
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  • has fulfilled the law.
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  • Love will take you way further
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  • than the law ever could.
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  • And it may be the law
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  • of the land that you can just
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  • get a divorce for no reason.
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  • In fact, that's what
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  • the Pharisees approached Jesus
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  • and asked Him in Matthew 19:
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  • "Is it rightful for a man
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  • to divorce his wife for any
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  • and every reason?"
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  • And Jesus started talking about,
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  • "Yeah, there are exceptions.
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  • When someone's unfaithful
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  • to you, it is grounds
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  • for divorce, but you know what,
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  • it's also grounds
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  • for forgiveness."
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  • I got to stop.
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  • I have a fourth point.
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  • It's just up to you.
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  • You might regret asking
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  • for this, but...
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  • Passion dies, one become two,
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  • and lives are torn apart
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  • because covenant
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  • becomes contract.
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  • Covenant becomes contract.
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  • Even when I say the word
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  • "covenant", I'm afraid that
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  • people today don't know what
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  • I mean, because words lose
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  • their meaning over time.
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  • Graham asked me
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  • a great question the other day.
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  • He's the six-year-old,
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  • and he asked me
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  • the best question.
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  • He said, "Daddy, other than you,
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  • who's the strongest pastor
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  • that there is?"
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  • Great question.
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  • A-plus question.
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  • I'll tell him about this friend,
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  • this pastor that I know who
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  • I think might be on steroids.
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  • But I told Graham how he used
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  • to be on the Power team.
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  • Some of y'all don't know about
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  • the Power team,
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  • and Graham didn't either.
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  • On the Power team they
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  • were like -- they do great feats
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  • of strength, like they would
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  • rip phone books in half.
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  • And I told him all about that.
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  • And you know what Graham said?
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  • He goes,
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  • "Daddy, what's a phone book?"
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  • See, I was trying to explain
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  • the Power team,
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  • and he needed me to explain
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  • the phone book.
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  • And so we used to be able
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  • to say things,
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  • "marriage is a covenant",
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  • and people would have
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  • understood that a covenant
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  • is not a contract.
  • 00:08:07.150 --> 00:08:08.180
  • Because a contract is based on
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  • mutual distrust.
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  • I will if you will.
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  • I don't know you.
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  • I don't know how
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  • you're going to do me.
  • 00:08:15.100 --> 00:08:16.060
  • I don't know where this
  • 00:08:16.060 --> 00:08:16.270
  • is going, so let's build in all
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  • kinds of exceptions and clauses.
  • 00:08:17.230 --> 00:08:20.040
  • Contracts are built so I can
  • 00:08:20.040 --> 00:08:21.020
  • find loopholes, and so we go
  • 00:08:21.020 --> 00:08:22.280
  • into marriage like
  • 00:08:22.280 --> 00:08:23.170
  • it's a contract.
  • 00:08:23.170 --> 00:08:24.140
  • But marriage is not a contract.
  • 00:08:24.140 --> 00:08:26.100
  • It's a covenant.
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  • People used to get this
  • 00:08:28.030 --> 00:08:29.000
  • because, you know,
  • 00:08:29.000 --> 00:08:30.040
  • like the Biblical idea of
  • 00:08:30.040 --> 00:08:31.150
  • a covenant originates
  • 00:08:31.150 --> 00:08:32.050
  • in the fact that
  • 00:08:32.050 --> 00:08:32.280
  • God made a covenant with us.
  • 00:08:32.280 --> 00:08:35.180
  • When they would make a covenant
  • 00:08:35.180 --> 00:08:36.240
  • also in the Bible,
  • 00:08:36.240 --> 00:08:38.080
  • they would do things
  • 00:08:38.080 --> 00:08:39.070
  • symbolically like -- we have
  • 00:08:39.070 --> 00:08:40.200
  • easy covenants now,
  • 00:08:40.200 --> 00:08:42.020
  • like I give you a ring,
  • 00:08:42.020 --> 00:08:43.010
  • you give me a ring.
  • 00:08:43.010 --> 00:08:45.110
  • I can take it off easy enough,
  • 00:08:45.110 --> 00:08:47.220
  • sell it at the pawn shop.
  • 00:08:47.220 --> 00:08:49.250
  • But when they would make
  • 00:08:49.250 --> 00:08:50.270
  • a covenant in the Bible,
  • 00:08:50.270 --> 00:08:52.080
  • not necessarily
  • 00:08:52.080 --> 00:08:53.070
  • a wedding covenant,
  • 00:08:53.070 --> 00:08:53.270
  • but a covenant, they would cut,
  • 00:08:53.270 --> 00:08:55.030
  • for instance, a bull in half.
  • 00:08:55.050 --> 00:08:58.050
  • They'd walk between
  • 00:08:58.050 --> 00:08:59.020
  • the bull seven times,
  • 00:08:59.020 --> 00:09:00.250
  • representing completion,
  • 00:09:00.250 --> 00:09:02.030
  • perfection.
  • 00:09:02.030 --> 00:09:03.100
  • And they would say something
  • 00:09:03.100 --> 00:09:04.040
  • like, "If I ever forsake
  • 00:09:04.040 --> 00:09:05.270
  • this covenant, may what happen
  • 00:09:05.270 --> 00:09:07.160
  • to this bull happen to me."
  • 00:09:07.160 --> 00:09:10.090
  • They took it seriously.
  • 00:09:10.090 --> 00:09:12.020
  • It was a covenant.
  • 00:09:12.020 --> 00:09:13.190
  • We don't know covenant anymore.
  • 00:09:13.190 --> 00:09:16.110
  • What's a phone book?
  • 00:09:16.110 --> 00:09:18.110
  • What's a covenant?
  • 00:09:18.110 --> 00:09:19.220
  • We stand before you today,
  • 00:09:19.220 --> 00:09:21.160
  • brothers and sisters,
  • 00:09:21.160 --> 00:09:22.070
  • to acknowledge
  • 00:09:22.070 --> 00:09:22.250
  • this holy covenant.
  • 00:09:22.250 --> 00:09:23.130
  • Yeah, yeah, yeah.
  • 00:09:23.130 --> 00:09:24.060
  • What's a covenant?
  • 00:09:24.060 --> 00:09:24.280
  • In fact, I cannot make this up.
  • 00:09:24.280 --> 00:09:26.140
  • When I was typing my notes,
  • 00:09:26.140 --> 00:09:27.090
  • I put this point on my notes,
  • 00:09:27.090 --> 00:09:28.220
  • "contract becomes covenant."
  • 00:09:28.220 --> 00:09:30.180
  • When I put "covenant"
  • 00:09:30.180 --> 00:09:31.140
  • in my word processing,
  • 00:09:31.140 --> 00:09:34.030
  • on my document, auto-correct
  • 00:09:34.030 --> 00:09:36.210
  • would not accept
  • 00:09:36.210 --> 00:09:38.020
  • the word "covenant."
  • 00:09:38.030 --> 00:09:41.030
  • You know what it changed it to?
  • 00:09:41.030 --> 00:09:43.010
  • "Convenient."
  • 00:09:45.220 --> 00:09:48.220
  • I said, "Thank you, Holy Ghost.
  • 00:09:49.160 --> 00:09:52.160
  • That's what I need to tell
  • 00:09:52.160 --> 00:09:53.180
  • these people when I preach from
  • 00:09:53.180 --> 00:09:55.240
  • 1 Corinthians 7 this week,
  • 00:09:55.240 --> 00:09:57.200
  • that sometimes keeping your
  • 00:09:57.200 --> 00:09:59.210
  • covenant is not convenient."
  • 00:10:02.120 --> 00:10:05.120
  • I'm going to preach
  • 00:10:05.120 --> 00:10:06.120
  • till I get the back
  • 00:10:06.120 --> 00:10:07.040
  • of the room involved.
  • 00:10:07.040 --> 00:10:08.060
  • I'm going to preach till
  • 00:10:08.060 --> 00:10:08.290
  • every campus is clapping.
  • 00:10:08.290 --> 00:10:11.210
  • Because if marriages
  • 00:10:11.210 --> 00:10:13.030
  • are going to make it,
  • 00:10:13.030 --> 00:10:14.020
  • it's going to take a covenant,
  • 00:10:14.020 --> 00:10:16.070
  • not a contract.
  • 00:10:16.070 --> 00:10:17.040
  • A contract is,
  • 00:10:17.040 --> 00:10:17.240
  • "Oh, you didn't sign that.
  • 00:10:18.030 --> 00:10:21.030
  • It says on page 44..."
  • 00:10:21.030 --> 00:10:23.050
  • It's not a contract.
  • 00:10:24.020 --> 00:10:27.020
  • It's not a contract.
  • 00:10:27.020 --> 00:10:29.020
  • It's a covenant.
  • 00:10:29.110 --> 00:10:32.110
  • It's like I'm serious
  • 00:10:32.110 --> 00:10:34.090
  • about this.
  • 00:10:34.090 --> 00:10:35.070
  • I'm going to do this.
  • 00:10:35.070 --> 00:10:37.030
  • I'm not up here just
  • 00:10:37.030 --> 00:10:37.250
  • saying words in front of you.
  • 00:10:37.250 --> 00:10:39.060
  • I mean this stuff.
  • 00:10:39.060 --> 00:10:40.250
  • I wasn't playing when I said,
  • 00:10:40.250 --> 00:10:42.130
  • "I take you
  • 00:10:42.130 --> 00:10:43.060
  • for better or worse."
  • 00:10:43.060 --> 00:10:43.270
  • I wasn't playing when I said,
  • 00:10:43.270 --> 00:10:45.040
  • "For richer or poorer."
  • 00:10:45.040 --> 00:10:46.200
  • I wasn't saying when I said,
  • 00:10:46.200 --> 00:10:48.130
  • "In sickness and in health."
  • 00:10:48.130 --> 00:10:49.220
  • I wasn't playing.
  • 00:10:49.240 --> 00:10:52.240
  • Wasn't playing.
  • 00:10:52.240 --> 00:10:55.140
  • It's a covenant.
  • 00:10:55.140 --> 00:10:57.060
  • It's a covenant.
  • 00:10:57.060 --> 00:10:58.010
  • People don't covenant anymore.
  • 00:10:58.010 --> 00:11:00.170
  • People hook up.
  • 00:11:00.200 --> 00:11:03.200
  • People don't covenant anymore.
  • 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:05.110
  • People shack.
  • 00:11:05.110 --> 00:11:07.090
  • People don't covenant anymore.
  • 00:11:07.090 --> 00:11:08.140
  • They try it out.
  • 00:11:08.140 --> 00:11:11.130
  • But if this is going to make it,
  • 00:11:11.130 --> 00:11:12.180
  • it's going to take a covenant.
  • 00:11:12.180 --> 00:11:15.140
  • And sometimes that covenant
  • 00:11:15.140 --> 00:11:16.290
  • will be inconvenient.
  • 00:11:16.290 --> 00:11:19.040
  • I got news for you.
  • 00:11:19.040 --> 00:11:20.200
  • The reason you're here today
  • 00:11:20.200 --> 00:11:23.140
  • is because God made a covenant.
  • 00:11:31.210 --> 00:11:34.210
  • I got more news for you.
  • 00:11:34.210 --> 00:11:36.270
  • That covenant has been
  • 00:11:36.270 --> 00:11:37.250
  • pretty inconvenient for God
  • 00:11:37.250 --> 00:11:39.090
  • at many times.
  • 00:11:39.090 --> 00:11:41.150
  • Because you hadn't always been
  • 00:11:41.150 --> 00:11:43.180
  • as perfect as you are right now
  • 00:11:43.180 --> 00:11:44.220
  • in this moment in church.
  • 00:11:49.080 --> 00:11:52.080
  • It wasn't convenient for Jesus
  • 00:11:53.140 --> 00:11:56.140
  • to come down from heaven,
  • 00:11:56.140 --> 00:11:58.190
  • be born as a baby in a barn
  • 00:11:58.190 --> 00:12:01.170
  • because there was no room
  • 00:12:01.170 --> 00:12:02.140
  • for Him in the inn,
  • 00:12:02.140 --> 00:12:03.190
  • but He had a covenant to keep.
  • 00:12:03.240 --> 00:12:06.240
  • He had a covenant to keep.
  • 00:12:06.240 --> 00:12:08.070
  • So He came.
  • 00:12:08.070 --> 00:12:09.180
  • It wasn't convenient for Jesus
  • 00:12:09.180 --> 00:12:11.230
  • to heal the very people
  • 00:12:11.230 --> 00:12:12.280
  • who would try to run Him off
  • 00:12:12.280 --> 00:12:14.090
  • the edge of a cliff
  • 00:12:14.090 --> 00:12:16.140
  • because He dared to call himself
  • 00:12:16.140 --> 00:12:17.120
  • the son of God,
  • 00:12:17.120 --> 00:12:18.250
  • but He had a covenant to keep.
  • 00:12:18.250 --> 00:12:20.130
  • It wasn't convenient for Him to
  • 00:12:20.130 --> 00:12:21.260
  • pray in the Garden of Gethsemane
  • 00:12:21.260 --> 00:12:23.150
  • until His drops of sweat
  • 00:12:23.150 --> 00:12:24.260
  • became like drops of blood,
  • 00:12:24.260 --> 00:12:26.080
  • but He had a covenant to keep,
  • 00:12:26.080 --> 00:12:27.220
  • so He prayed for you
  • 00:12:27.220 --> 00:12:28.240
  • and He prayed for me.
  • 00:12:28.240 --> 00:12:30.060
  • It wasn't convenient
  • 00:12:30.060 --> 00:12:31.000
  • when everybody slept on Him,
  • 00:12:31.000 --> 00:12:32.100
  • but He went to the cross
  • 00:12:32.100 --> 00:12:34.080
  • because He had a covenant
  • 00:12:34.080 --> 00:12:35.060
  • to keep.
  • 00:12:35.060 --> 00:12:36.210
  • It wasn't convenient when
  • 00:12:36.210 --> 00:12:37.150
  • they pulled the beard
  • 00:12:37.150 --> 00:12:38.190
  • from His face, but He stood
  • 00:12:38.190 --> 00:12:41.020
  • trial because He had a covenant
  • 00:12:41.020 --> 00:12:42.170
  • to keep.
  • 00:12:42.170 --> 00:12:43.230
  • It wasn't convenient
  • 00:12:43.230 --> 00:12:44.240
  • when they mocked Him
  • 00:12:44.240 --> 00:12:46.070
  • and spit on the face
  • 00:12:46.070 --> 00:12:47.170
  • of the radiance of God's glory,
  • 00:12:47.170 --> 00:12:48.160
  • but He had a covenant to keep.
  • 00:12:48.160 --> 00:12:50.180
  • It wasn't convenient
  • 00:12:50.180 --> 00:12:51.220
  • when they drove the nails
  • 00:12:51.220 --> 00:12:53.020
  • through His hands
  • 00:12:53.020 --> 00:12:54.100
  • and through His feet,
  • 00:12:54.100 --> 00:12:55.050
  • but He had a covenant to keep.
  • 00:12:55.050 --> 00:12:57.280
  • It wasn't convenient when
  • 00:12:57.280 --> 00:12:59.110
  • He shed His blood to forgive
  • 00:12:59.110 --> 00:13:01.010
  • you of your sin,
  • 00:13:01.010 --> 00:13:02.070
  • but you're here today
  • 00:13:02.070 --> 00:13:04.160
  • because you have
  • 00:13:04.160 --> 00:13:05.140
  • a covenant-keeping,
  • 00:13:06.040 --> 00:13:09.040
  • a covenant-keeping,
  • 00:13:09.040 --> 00:13:11.080
  • promise-keeping,
  • 00:13:11.080 --> 00:13:13.130
  • oath-making God.
  • 00:13:14.120 --> 00:13:17.120
  • Covenant, covenant.
  • 00:13:17.210 --> 00:13:20.210
  • God said, "I swear to myself
  • 00:13:20.210 --> 00:13:23.210
  • I'll be with you to the end
  • 00:13:23.210 --> 00:13:25.160
  • of the age."
  • 00:13:25.160 --> 00:13:26.210
  • That's a covenant.
  • 00:13:26.210 --> 00:13:28.250
  • That's a covenant.
  • 00:13:28.250 --> 00:13:31.120
  • Stand up, everybody.
  • 00:13:31.120 --> 00:13:32.110
  • I got one more thing
  • 00:13:32.110 --> 00:13:33.040
  • to share with you.
  • 00:13:33.040 --> 00:13:35.140
  • Covenant.
  • 00:13:35.140 --> 00:13:37.170
  • Covenant.
  • 00:13:37.170 --> 00:13:39.170
  • Covenant.
  • 00:13:39.180 --> 00:13:42.180
  • Covenant.
  • 00:13:43.060 --> 00:13:46.060
  • December of 2012,
  • 00:13:46.180 --> 00:13:49.180
  • the worst Christmas
  • 00:13:49.180 --> 00:13:51.290
  • of my family's life
  • 00:13:51.290 --> 00:13:53.020
  • because my dad was dying
  • 00:13:53.020 --> 00:13:55.260
  • of ALS-Lou Gehrig's disease.
  • 00:13:56.150 --> 00:13:59.150
  • There's a lot more awareness
  • 00:13:59.150 --> 00:14:00.130
  • of what this disease is after
  • 00:14:00.130 --> 00:14:01.120
  • the Ice Bucket Challenge.
  • 00:14:01.120 --> 00:14:04.020
  • But we saw it firsthand
  • 00:14:04.020 --> 00:14:05.060
  • because we watched
  • 00:14:05.060 --> 00:14:06.000
  • my dad die from this disease.
  • 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:08.010
  • In December 2012,
  • 00:14:08.010 --> 00:14:09.120
  • my father had made the decision,
  • 00:14:09.120 --> 00:14:11.140
  • made several decisions that
  • 00:14:11.180 --> 00:14:14.180
  • separated him from our family.
  • 00:14:14.180 --> 00:14:17.040
  • I had moved.
  • 00:14:17.040 --> 00:14:17.270
  • He and my mom here,
  • 00:14:17.270 --> 00:14:18.230
  • when his symptoms first started
  • 00:14:18.230 --> 00:14:20.020
  • getting so bad that he lost
  • 00:14:20.020 --> 00:14:21.120
  • his functionality, he asked me
  • 00:14:21.120 --> 00:14:23.260
  • to move he and my mom here
  • 00:14:23.260 --> 00:14:25.140
  • so I could play a part
  • 00:14:25.140 --> 00:14:27.060
  • in caring for them.
  • 00:14:27.060 --> 00:14:28.230
  • We did that.
  • 00:14:28.230 --> 00:14:29.230
  • It did not work out.
  • 00:14:29.230 --> 00:14:30.260
  • My mom and dad had a very
  • 00:14:30.260 --> 00:14:31.290
  • complicated and strained
  • 00:14:31.290 --> 00:14:34.080
  • relationship.
  • 00:14:34.080 --> 00:14:35.230
  • They were good parents to me.
  • 00:14:35.230 --> 00:14:37.090
  • I think they did
  • 00:14:37.090 --> 00:14:38.010
  • the best they could.
  • 00:14:38.010 --> 00:14:39.050
  • But I think she approached him
  • 00:14:39.050 --> 00:14:40.010
  • a little bit too much
  • 00:14:40.010 --> 00:14:40.270
  • like a renovation project.
  • 00:14:40.270 --> 00:14:43.240
  • And she didn't know he was --
  • 00:14:43.240 --> 00:14:46.220
  • he had some stuff under
  • 00:14:46.220 --> 00:14:47.150
  • the tile.
  • 00:14:47.150 --> 00:14:49.180
  • He had a very rough,
  • 00:14:49.180 --> 00:14:50.190
  • rough upbringing,
  • 00:14:50.190 --> 00:14:52.240
  • and that's difficult.
  • 00:14:52.240 --> 00:14:53.180
  • That's very, very difficult,
  • 00:14:53.180 --> 00:14:54.270
  • and sometimes it just
  • 00:14:54.270 --> 00:14:55.210
  • doesn't work out.
  • 00:14:55.210 --> 00:14:56.230
  • But, you know, I can remember --
  • 00:14:56.250 --> 00:14:59.250
  • this is kind of crazy.
  • 00:14:59.250 --> 00:15:01.110
  • I remember when
  • 00:15:01.110 --> 00:15:02.090
  • I was like 10 or 11.
  • 00:15:02.090 --> 00:15:03.130
  • One time my mom and dad
  • 00:15:03.130 --> 00:15:04.210
  • sat me down, and my brother,
  • 00:15:04.210 --> 00:15:05.270
  • and they said, "We got bad news
  • 00:15:05.270 --> 00:15:06.280
  • for you guys."
  • 00:15:06.280 --> 00:15:08.070
  • And I remember my mom
  • 00:15:08.070 --> 00:15:08.270
  • was crying.
  • 00:15:08.270 --> 00:15:09.210
  • She said, "We've been married
  • 00:15:09.210 --> 00:15:10.220
  • for however many years,
  • 00:15:10.220 --> 00:15:12.080
  • and your dad and I have done
  • 00:15:12.080 --> 00:15:13.210
  • the best we can,
  • 00:15:13.210 --> 00:15:14.170
  • but now we're going" --
  • 00:15:14.170 --> 00:15:16.030
  • and I knew where she was going,
  • 00:15:16.030 --> 00:15:16.290
  • "We're going to split up."
  • 00:15:16.290 --> 00:15:18.020
  • And I remember as a 10
  • 00:15:18.020 --> 00:15:18.250
  • or 11-year-old, I said,
  • 00:15:18.250 --> 00:15:19.230
  • "No, you're not."
  • 00:15:19.230 --> 00:15:21.220
  • I've been doing this
  • 00:15:21.220 --> 00:15:22.120
  • a long time.
  • 00:15:22.120 --> 00:15:23.030
  • Long before I got a microphone
  • 00:15:23.030 --> 00:15:23.290
  • I've been telling people
  • 00:15:23.290 --> 00:15:24.180
  • what to do.
  • 00:15:24.180 --> 00:15:26.150
  • "No, you're not."
  • 00:15:26.150 --> 00:15:29.120
  • Maybe God brought me here today
  • 00:15:29.120 --> 00:15:30.100
  • to say to somebody who's about
  • 00:15:30.100 --> 00:15:31.200
  • to give up on a relationship
  • 00:15:31.200 --> 00:15:32.280
  • that God started in your life:
  • 00:15:32.280 --> 00:15:35.240
  • No, you're not.
  • 00:15:35.240 --> 00:15:38.010
  • And I'm not claiming the credit
  • 00:15:38.010 --> 00:15:38.240
  • for their marriage
  • 00:15:38.240 --> 00:15:39.260
  • or anything like that,
  • 00:15:39.260 --> 00:15:41.100
  • but I would say
  • 00:15:41.100 --> 00:15:42.230
  • they toughed it out.
  • 00:15:42.230 --> 00:15:43.150
  • I wouldn't say they had
  • 00:15:43.150 --> 00:15:44.050
  • the most enjoyable marriage.
  • 00:15:44.050 --> 00:15:45.230
  • But there were moments,
  • 00:15:45.230 --> 00:15:46.180
  • you know, like every marriage.
  • 00:15:46.180 --> 00:15:47.200
  • It was very difficult.
  • 00:15:47.200 --> 00:15:49.230
  • Anyway, in December 2012,
  • 00:15:49.230 --> 00:15:52.070
  • my father,
  • 00:15:52.070 --> 00:15:53.200
  • who had threatened my mother,
  • 00:15:53.200 --> 00:15:55.200
  • I think it was a combination
  • 00:15:55.200 --> 00:15:57.160
  • of the pain and the medication
  • 00:15:57.160 --> 00:15:59.220
  • he was taking that caused him
  • 00:15:59.220 --> 00:16:00.200
  • to lose his mind.
  • 00:16:00.200 --> 00:16:01.130
  • He just was not himself.
  • 00:16:01.130 --> 00:16:03.130
  • But he had threatened my mom
  • 00:16:03.130 --> 00:16:04.060
  • to the point where I had
  • 00:16:04.060 --> 00:16:06.220
  • to go in and confront him,
  • 00:16:06.220 --> 00:16:08.030
  • and the two had to be separated,
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  • but instead of staying
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  • in Charlotte like we
  • 00:16:10.100 --> 00:16:11.100
  • asked him to, he went off.
  • 00:16:11.150 --> 00:16:14.150
  • I was paying financially for him
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  • to be in an assisted
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  • living facility about three
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  • or four hours away from our
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  • family, which was sad to me
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  • because my dad was not old
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  • enough to be in that facility.
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  • And I walked in one time
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  • and he was calling bingo
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  • to like 85-year-olds,
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  • and my dad was 60.
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  • And I would just feel so bad,
  • 00:16:29.010 --> 00:16:30.050
  • but I couldn't -- you know,
  • 00:16:30.050 --> 00:16:31.090
  • sometimes you just can't.
  • 00:16:31.090 --> 00:16:33.040
  • Sometimes you just can't.
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  • It came to a point over time --
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  • I won't tell you all
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  • the details.
  • 00:16:36.260 --> 00:16:37.190
  • Some are too personal,
  • 00:16:37.190 --> 00:16:39.080
  • and you got football games
  • 00:16:39.080 --> 00:16:41.110
  • to watch and stuff,
  • 00:16:42.180 --> 00:16:45.180
  • but it came to a point where
  • 00:16:45.180 --> 00:16:46.170
  • there was enough reconciliation
  • 00:16:46.170 --> 00:16:48.180
  • and my dad's health deteriorated
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  • where he was no longer
  • 00:16:49.150 --> 00:16:50.100
  • a physical threat.
  • 00:16:50.100 --> 00:16:51.170
  • And my mom wrote me a letter
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  • and I asked her could I share
  • 00:16:52.240 --> 00:16:53.250
  • a few sentences of it with you
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  • so that what the devil
  • 00:16:55.040 --> 00:16:56.200
  • meant for evil,
  • 00:16:56.200 --> 00:16:57.170
  • God could use it for good.
  • 00:16:57.170 --> 00:16:59.240
  • And I asked that you would
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  • listen to the words
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  • she wrote me in December 2012,
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  • just six months before
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  • my dad would die.
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  • She didn't know it would be
  • 00:17:06.210 --> 00:17:07.160
  • six months, but here's what
  • 00:17:07.160 --> 00:17:08.100
  • she wrote to me.
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  • And I'll skip the introduction,
  • 00:17:10.250 --> 00:17:11.190
  • but she said,
  • 00:17:11.190 --> 00:17:13.220
  • "After actually spending
  • 00:17:13.220 --> 00:17:15.060
  • three nights at
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  • the assisted living facility,"
  • 00:17:16.010 --> 00:17:17.110
  • because she had gone there
  • 00:17:17.110 --> 00:17:18.110
  • with him to be with him
  • 00:17:18.110 --> 00:17:20.170
  • and to see where
  • 00:17:20.170 --> 00:17:21.150
  • the relationship could
  • 00:17:21.150 --> 00:17:22.060
  • or could not go.
  • 00:17:22.060 --> 00:17:23.030
  • She said, "I realized that
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  • in spite of everything
  • 00:17:23.290 --> 00:17:25.000
  • that has happened, I need to
  • 00:17:25.000 --> 00:17:25.240
  • take care of your dad as long
  • 00:17:25.240 --> 00:17:26.270
  • as I am able, whether it is
  • 00:17:26.270 --> 00:17:28.240
  • one month, one year, or more.
  • 00:17:29.170 --> 00:17:32.170
  • I was able to see that everyone
  • 00:17:32.170 --> 00:17:33.130
  • at the home has dementia.
  • 00:17:33.130 --> 00:17:35.070
  • Knowing what I know about what
  • 00:17:35.070 --> 00:17:36.000
  • lies ahead for him,
  • 00:17:36.000 --> 00:17:37.170
  • how can I leave him there
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  • with no one to talk to in what
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  • brief time he may have
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  • the ability to speak?
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  • He's alone after 7:00 p.m.
  • 00:17:43.120 --> 00:17:45.070
  • with no one but himself.
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  • The fact that he brought it
  • 00:17:47.030 --> 00:17:48.070
  • on himself doesn't change
  • 00:17:48.070 --> 00:17:49.110
  • the fact that he's facing
  • 00:17:49.110 --> 00:17:50.240
  • a terrifying death process.
  • 00:17:50.240 --> 00:17:52.190
  • And unless God
  • 00:17:52.190 --> 00:17:53.170
  • decides differently, I believe
  • 00:17:53.170 --> 00:17:56.030
  • it's as big of a sin on my part
  • 00:17:56.030 --> 00:17:59.000
  • for me to leave him there
  • 00:17:59.000 --> 00:18:00.260
  • as it was for him to speak
  • 00:18:00.260 --> 00:18:03.190
  • the evil words he spoke
  • 00:18:03.190 --> 00:18:04.200
  • to the people trying to help him
  • 00:18:04.200 --> 00:18:06.160
  • the most.
  • 00:18:06.160 --> 00:18:07.220
  • In saying that, I don't in
  • 00:18:07.220 --> 00:18:08.260
  • any fashion or way minimalize
  • 00:18:09.000 --> 00:18:12.000
  • the pain he caused
  • 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:12.240
  • and inflicted on many people,
  • 00:18:12.240 --> 00:18:14.020
  • especially you.
  • 00:18:14.020 --> 00:18:15.260
  • I hate it and I always will.
  • 00:18:15.260 --> 00:18:18.060
  • I've asked myself over
  • 00:18:18.060 --> 00:18:19.270
  • and over what papa would do."
  • 00:18:19.270 --> 00:18:21.150
  • She's speaking now about
  • 00:18:21.150 --> 00:18:22.180
  • her father who cared
  • 00:18:22.180 --> 00:18:24.040
  • for his wife through 14 years
  • 00:18:24.040 --> 00:18:26.260
  • of Alzheimer's,
  • 00:18:26.260 --> 00:18:28.130
  • because the decisions
  • 00:18:28.130 --> 00:18:30.080
  • you make about covenant today
  • 00:18:30.080 --> 00:18:31.030
  • will affect a future generation.
  • 00:18:33.090 --> 00:18:36.090
  • "I've asked myself over
  • 00:18:36.090 --> 00:18:37.090
  • and over what papa would do.
  • 00:18:37.090 --> 00:18:38.250
  • He would certainly agree that
  • 00:18:38.250 --> 00:18:40.010
  • your dad's behavior
  • 00:18:40.010 --> 00:18:40.280
  • was repulsive, but seeing him
  • 00:18:40.280 --> 00:18:42.210
  • like he is now, I believe
  • 00:18:42.210 --> 00:18:43.210
  • he would take him in
  • 00:18:43.210 --> 00:18:45.070
  • and care for him as long as
  • 00:18:45.070 --> 00:18:46.050
  • he could physically do so.
  • 00:18:46.050 --> 00:18:48.220
  • I don't know what it is like to
  • 00:18:48.220 --> 00:18:50.160
  • lose use of my legs, my arms,
  • 00:18:50.160 --> 00:18:51.210
  • my hands and know that
  • 00:18:51.210 --> 00:18:53.220
  • even worse is yet to come.
  • 00:18:53.220 --> 00:18:54.200
  • I know what it is like to
  • 00:18:54.200 --> 00:18:55.160
  • lose a dad, good dad or bad dad.
  • 00:18:55.160 --> 00:18:58.010
  • It's a gut-wrenching loss.
  • 00:18:58.010 --> 00:19:00.020
  • I don't know what
  • 00:19:00.020 --> 00:19:00.220
  • it's like to lose a husband.
  • 00:19:00.220 --> 00:19:01.160
  • Surely it is gut-wrenching also.
  • 00:19:01.160 --> 00:19:03.150
  • I know what it is like
  • 00:19:03.150 --> 00:19:04.100
  • to be cruel and I know what
  • 00:19:04.100 --> 00:19:05.110
  • it is like to be kind.
  • 00:19:05.110 --> 00:19:07.160
  • I know that I have a vow
  • 00:19:07.160 --> 00:19:08.280
  • to keep.
  • 00:19:08.280 --> 00:19:11.150
  • I know that I have a vow
  • 00:19:11.150 --> 00:19:12.290
  • to keep, the in-sickness vow,"
  • 00:19:15.150 --> 00:19:18.150
  • she says.
  • 00:19:18.150 --> 00:19:21.030
  • "And I need to let him come home
  • 00:19:21.030 --> 00:19:23.020
  • and care for him as best I can.
  • 00:19:23.020 --> 00:19:25.250
  • I believe that love does
  • 00:19:25.250 --> 00:19:26.190
  • bear all things.
  • 00:19:26.190 --> 00:19:28.090
  • I'm not physically fearful
  • 00:19:28.090 --> 00:19:29.050
  • of your dad any longer,
  • 00:19:29.050 --> 00:19:30.090
  • so I think God is telling me
  • 00:19:30.090 --> 00:19:32.090
  • to let him out of solitary
  • 00:19:32.090 --> 00:19:33.080
  • confinement as he sits
  • 00:19:33.080 --> 00:19:35.040
  • on death row.
  • 00:19:35.270 --> 00:19:38.270
  • It will be harder than hard,
  • 00:19:38.270 --> 00:19:40.250
  • but to receive mercy,
  • 00:19:40.250 --> 00:19:43.040
  • I have to be merciful
  • 00:19:43.040 --> 00:19:44.000
  • in this season of my life.
  • 00:19:44.000 --> 00:19:46.030
  • And when the end comes for
  • 00:19:46.030 --> 00:19:47.070
  • your dad and when it comes
  • 00:19:47.070 --> 00:19:48.060
  • for me, I want to know that
  • 00:19:48.060 --> 00:19:50.170
  • I was the wife God called me
  • 00:19:50.170 --> 00:19:51.190
  • to be while on this earth.
  • 00:19:51.240 --> 00:19:54.240
  • I want to finish strong.
  • 00:19:54.240 --> 00:19:57.030
  • All my heart, mom."
  • 00:19:57.030 --> 00:19:59.170
  • Six months later,
  • 00:19:59.170 --> 00:20:01.020
  • as my dad breathed
  • 00:20:01.020 --> 00:20:01.240
  • his last breath,
  • 00:20:01.240 --> 00:20:03.040
  • we were all there
  • 00:20:03.040 --> 00:20:04.200
  • because a woman
  • 00:20:04.200 --> 00:20:05.190
  • kept her covenant.
  • 00:20:05.240 --> 00:20:08.240
  • We were there because a woman
  • 00:20:08.240 --> 00:20:11.120
  • kept her covenant.
  • 00:20:11.120 --> 00:20:14.020
  • I have a vow to keep.
  • 00:20:14.020 --> 00:20:16.210
  • You're here today
  • 00:20:16.210 --> 00:20:18.250
  • because God kept His covenant.
  • 00:20:20.130 --> 00:20:23.130
  • Bow your head, close your eyes
  • 00:20:23.130 --> 00:20:24.100
  • all over the room.
  • 00:20:24.100 --> 00:20:25.100
  • The spirit of the Lord
  • 00:20:25.100 --> 00:20:26.010
  • is in this place.
  • 00:20:26.010 --> 00:20:27.170
  • Nobody moving.
  • 00:20:27.170 --> 00:20:28.110
  • The spirit of the Lord
  • 00:20:28.110 --> 00:20:29.010
  • is in this place.
  • 00:20:29.010 --> 00:20:29.270
  • The glory of the Lord
  • 00:20:29.270 --> 00:20:30.190
  • is in this place.
  • 00:20:30.190 --> 00:20:31.130
  • The presence of the Lord
  • 00:20:31.130 --> 00:20:32.120
  • is in this place.
  • 00:20:32.170 --> 00:20:35.170
  • Restoration is in this place.
  • 00:20:35.170 --> 00:20:37.040
  • Miracles, miracles.
  • 00:20:37.040 --> 00:20:39.270
  • Thank you, Jesus.
  • 00:20:40.060 --> 00:20:43.060
  • Heads bowed, eyes closed.
  • 00:20:43.060 --> 00:20:44.160
  • There are many here today
  • 00:20:44.160 --> 00:20:46.210
  • who need to begin a relationship
  • 00:20:46.210 --> 00:20:47.160
  • with God.
  • 00:20:47.160 --> 00:20:48.090
  • I've preached about marriage,
  • 00:20:48.090 --> 00:20:49.100
  • but maybe the point
  • 00:20:49.100 --> 00:20:50.080
  • that God brought you here
  • 00:20:50.080 --> 00:20:51.030
  • for today is to bring
  • 00:20:51.030 --> 00:20:52.110
  • you back into relationship
  • 00:20:52.110 --> 00:20:53.090
  • with himself.
  • 00:20:53.090 --> 00:20:55.120
  • If that's you, I want you
  • 00:20:55.120 --> 00:20:56.090
  • to know He's never stopped
  • 00:20:56.090 --> 00:20:57.040
  • loving you.
  • 00:20:57.040 --> 00:20:57.270
  • He's never stopped caring
  • 00:20:57.270 --> 00:20:58.230
  • for you and He never will.
  • 00:20:58.230 --> 00:21:01.190
  • All He wants from you
  • 00:21:01.190 --> 00:21:02.130
  • is simple faith and trust
  • 00:21:02.130 --> 00:21:04.100
  • to call on His name
  • 00:21:04.100 --> 00:21:05.050
  • and to surrender the life
  • 00:21:05.050 --> 00:21:06.120
  • that He gave you back to Him.
  • 00:21:06.120 --> 00:21:08.160
  • He will keep His covenant.
  • 00:21:08.160 --> 00:21:10.150
  • If that's you today
  • 00:21:10.150 --> 00:21:11.190
  • and you want to call
  • 00:21:11.190 --> 00:21:12.260
  • on Jesus Christ for
  • 00:21:12.260 --> 00:21:13.290
  • the forgiveness of your sins
  • 00:21:13.290 --> 00:21:15.020
  • and begin a relationship with
  • 00:21:15.020 --> 00:21:15.290
  • the God who keeps all of
  • 00:21:15.290 --> 00:21:16.220
  • His promises, who is faithful
  • 00:21:16.220 --> 00:21:17.210
  • when you are faithless,
  • 00:21:17.210 --> 00:21:19.260
  • I want you to pray this prayer.
  • 00:21:19.260 --> 00:21:20.270
  • We're going to pray it all
  • 00:21:20.270 --> 00:21:22.110
  • out loud at all of our
  • 00:21:22.110 --> 00:21:23.050
  • locations together now.
  • 00:21:23.050 --> 00:21:25.060
  • Repeat after me.
  • 00:21:25.060 --> 00:21:26.080
  • Heavenly Father,
  • 00:21:26.080 --> 00:21:27.260
  • I'm a sinner
  • 00:21:27.260 --> 00:21:29.110
  • in need of a Savior.
  • 00:21:29.110 --> 00:21:30.260
  • I believe that Jesus Christ
  • 00:21:30.260 --> 00:21:33.170
  • is the son of God
  • 00:21:33.170 --> 00:21:35.050
  • and the Savior of the world.
  • 00:21:35.050 --> 00:21:37.160
  • I believe He died on a cross
  • 00:21:37.160 --> 00:21:40.020
  • to forgive my sin
  • 00:21:40.020 --> 00:21:42.040
  • and rose from the dead
  • 00:21:42.040 --> 00:21:43.200
  • to give me life.
  • 00:21:45.170 --> 00:21:48.170
  • I ask you now to make me new.
  • 00:21:49.210 --> 00:21:52.210
  • I repent of my sin.
  • 00:21:52.210 --> 00:21:55.010
  • I call on you, Jesus.
  • 00:21:55.010 --> 00:21:57.130
  • You are my Lord and Savior.
  • 00:21:57.250 --> 00:22:00.270
  • I'll follow you
  • 00:22:00.270 --> 00:22:02.110
  • - Hey, it really is
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  • a privilege
  • 00:22:04.250 --> 00:22:05.130
  • to share God's Word with you.
  • 00:22:05.130 --> 00:22:06.270
  • Thank you for joining me.
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  • But, each week we just have
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  • a little bit of time together,
  • 00:22:09.180 --> 00:22:11.060
  • and, I'd love to take
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  • just a TV program.
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  • So, if you wanna go deeper,
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  • if you wanna connect
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  • on another level,
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  • Live, every single Sunday,
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  • And so, you can tune in,
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  • But, it's just our way,
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  • and sex, we tend to look
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  • in all the wrong places.
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  • The world claims
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  • but maybe we've been focusing
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  • on the wrong problem all along.
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  • In our series, "Meant to Be",
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  • Pastor Steven Furtick
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  • has open conversations
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  • to help us uncover
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  • the Bible's best kept secrets
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  • about sex, marriage,
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  • and being single.
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  • - Most of the emphasis,
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  • when you talk about dating,
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  • and marriage, and singleness,
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  • in culture seems to be
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  • on finding the right one.
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  • Most of the emphasis,
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  • when you come to the scripture,
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  • tends to be on being
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  • the right one.
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  • - For your gift of any amount
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  • we'll send you
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  • the five-part
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  • Meant To Be series,
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  • which includes a message
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  • with Pastor Steven
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  • and his wife Holly,
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  • where they share
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  • personal examples
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  • and scriptural insight on how
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  • we can invite God to work
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  • in our everyday
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  • relationship challenges.
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  • Pastor Steven also explains
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  • the unnecessary complications
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  • that sidetrack us
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  • in relationships,
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  • and he shows us
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  • what is truly meant to be
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  • in our lives
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  • when we have Jesus
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  • as our foundation.
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  • - I've been told all my life
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  • to put Jesus first,
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  • but that doesn't work,
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  • because that separates him out
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  • from everything else.
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  • Live as if Jesus
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  • was not first on your list,
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  • but that He was
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  • the center of your world.
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  • - Visit us online
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  • at stevenfurtick.com,
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  • or call us at the number
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  • on your screen
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  • to get your copy
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  • - Lift up your hands
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  • Receive it now
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  • Here in the presence
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  • Of the Lord
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  • Sing, mercy
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  • Is falling, falling
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  • Lift up your hands
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  • Receive it now
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  • Here in the presence
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  • Of the Lord
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  • And, I know
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  • your past Is broken
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  • You can move on
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  • It's over now
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  • Here in the presence
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  • Of the Lord
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  • Sing, "I know"
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  • I know your past
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  • is broken
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  • You can move on
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  • it's over now
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  • Here in the presence
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  • You're tired of
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  • running, running
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  • Be still and know
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  • He's in control
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  • Here in the presence
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  • Of the Lord
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  • Come on!
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  • And, pour out your heart
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  • Open your arms
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  • He'll hold you now
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  • Here in the presence
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  • And, mercy
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  • Just lift up your hands
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  • Receive it now
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  • 'Cause you're in
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  • the presence of the Lord
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  • Sing, mercy
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  • Is falling, falling
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  • Lift up your hands
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  • Receive it now
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  • You're in the presence
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