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October 17, 2019
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Touching Lives with James Merritt

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  • James Merritt: Do you know what God wants for every unbeliever
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  • who's never come to God?
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  • He wants us to bring them to God.
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  • Do you know what God wants for every believer who's fallen
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  • away from God?
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  • He wants us to bring them back to God.
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  • And if you've got that in your heart, if you've got a fire
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  • in your heart then say: Lord, when I meet someone that needs
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  • to be reconciled, let me reconcile them to you.
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  • Lord, when I meet someone that needs to be restored, let me
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  • restore them to you, then you can know I am living
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  • by the Spirit.
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  • male announcer: Teaching people everywhere who Jesus is
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  • and why they need him.
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  • This is "Touching Lives with James Merritt."
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  • James Merritt: So, the question I want to answer is: How do you
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  • treat people who are broken down, who are burdened down, who
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  • are breaking down?
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  • 'Cause we you know we need to make sure, it's been famously
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  • said that we don't become a museum for saints, we become
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  • a hospital for those who are sinning and suffering.
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  • How do you do it?
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  • So maybe you know someone right now, and they're caught
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  • in a sin.
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  • They're caught in the trap of alcoholism or adultery.
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  • They have a bitter, unforgiving spirit.
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  • They are in maybe battling depression or they're going
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  • through a difficult divorce.
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  • How do you handle those broken burdened believers?
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  • And Paul gives us, this church, three wonderful pieces
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  • of advice.
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  • He says, first of all, we are to gladly restore
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  • burdened believers.
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  • We are to gladly restore burdened believers.
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  • He begins in Galatians 6:1 saying this, "Brothers
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  • and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you live
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  • by the Spirit should restore that person gently..."
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  • Now, Paul is giving a hypothetical situation.
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  • He says look let's suppose you know of a fellow believer.
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  • This is someone who says they know the Lord, they say they've
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  • trusted Christ, but they've been caught in a fault.
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  • Now that word caught basically could have two meanings.
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  • It can refer to someone who's been caught up in a sin
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  • and they, they came into a tempting situation.
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  • They didn't handle it well, they blew it, and they fell flat
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  • on their face.
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  • Or, it can mean someone who has been caught by someone in a sin.
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  • The point is what Paul is talking about, it's not a bad
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  • person, they're not they're not a wicked person.
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  • This is not somebody who's sinning
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  • and they're happy about it.
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  • This is someone who is caught in the trap of sin; they want
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  • to get out, but they can't get out; they want to get
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  • up but they can't get up.
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  • And I've seen this all in my ministry.
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  • I have seen pastors who have lost their ministry
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  • and lost their marriage and lost their family
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  • and lost their testimony and lost their witness
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  • and lost their influence and lost their church,
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  • and I've never met one yet that it happened this way.
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  • I've never met a pastor that just got up one morning and said
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  • you know, I think today I'll just blow it.
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  • I think I'll cheat on my wife.
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  • I think that I'll get into drugs.
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  • I think I'll embezzle money from the church.
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  • I think I'll blow every bit of influence in every bit
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  • of witness I have ever had in my life.
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  • I think today I'm just gonna let God know I'm through with him.
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  • Never happens that way.
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  • 100% of the time, here's what happened.
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  • They allow themselves to get into a bad situation.
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  • They allow themselves to get into the wrong place
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  • at the wrong time with the wrong person.
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  • They did the wrong thing and before they knew it they
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  • were caught in a sin.
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  • That's who he was talking about here.
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  • This is a brother, a believer, who is caught in a sin.
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  • There's a great biblical illustration.
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  • You remember the story of David and Bathsheba?
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  • Let me tell you what didn't happen that night.
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  • David did not go out onto the porch.
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  • It probably was a hot night, maybe wanting some fresh air
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  • maybe was bored.
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  • I can promise you David didn't decide to get up off of this
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  • couch go out to his porch.
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  • He didn't go out there and think you know, I think tonight would
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  • be a great night to commit adultery.
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  • I think tonight would be a great night to get
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  • another man's wife pregnant.
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  • I think another great idea would be to kill the husband to cover
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  • it up and then I'll marry her and live happily ever after.
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  • That is not the way it happened.
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  • He just went out on the porch, maybe to get a breath
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  • of fresh air, and instead of turning around--
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  • which he should've done, going back into the palace--
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  • which he should've done.
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  • Before he knew it, he is caught in this spider web of sin.
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  • That's exactly who Paul is talking about.
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  • Now, the question is this: If a fellow believer or believers
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  • learn about this person's sin, what do they do?
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  • So, you know someone, they're a friend.
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  • They claim to be a follower of Jesus, but they're not living
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  • the way they ought to live.
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  • They done something they shouldn't do and they're doing
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  • things they shouldn't do; they're not living the way they
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  • ought to live and you know that they're not.
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  • What do you do?
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  • Do you shut them out?
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  • Stick your head in the sand and hope it goes away?
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  • Pretend it's not happening? Ignore it?
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  • Forget about it? What do you do?
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  • Now keep in mind, it's important to understand we're not talking
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  • here about an unbeliever.
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  • This is someone who is far away from God, they're living
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  • an unbroken sin, they rejected God and they sleep like a baby.
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  • This is not someone that needs reconciliation.
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  • This is someone that needs restoration.
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  • Here's a fellow believer and he's been caught.
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  • And by the way that word carries with it the connotation of being
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  • caught by surprise.
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  • And in other words again, they weren't looking for sin.
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  • They didn't go out intentionally meaning to blow everything they
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  • ever worked for all their life.
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  • They just fell into a temptation trap and they got caught
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  • in this sin.
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  • This is not about an unbeliever who lives an unbroken sin.
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  • This is about a believer who has been broken by sin.
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  • This is not who that person really is.
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  • And by the way we've got examples of this all
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  • through the Bible.
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  • Moses murdered an Egyptian.
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  • But Moses was not a serial killer.
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  • Peter denied Jesus.
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  • But he was not a God-hating atheist.
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  • David committed adultery, but he was not a lascivious playboy.
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  • So what Paul is asking is this, okay church, when a child of God
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  • falls, when a child of God blows it, when a child of kindness, is
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  • wallowing in the mud of sin, what are we going to do as their
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  • brother and their sister?
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  • Because this is a family affair.
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  • Paul says here's what we ought to do.
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  • We ought to restore that person.
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  • By the way, it's beautiful word.
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  • The word restore is a medical term.
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  • Actually it's a surgical term and it refers to the setting
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  • of a broken bone or a dislocated joint.
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  • So that'll give some of you--
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  • In fact, I'm inclined to make you feel good today, okay?
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  • People that don't know me that well or they don't feel
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  • like they can be very informal around me, they call me
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  • Dr. Merritt, 'cause you know, I have a doctor's degree.
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  • Well, as I was preparing this message, I realized,
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  • you know what?
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  • I got to tell the church something today.
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  • You ready?
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  • I'm not the only doctor in this house this morning.
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  • I'm looking at a bunch of doctors out there.
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  • Because if you know Christ, if Jesus is your Lord, if you're
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  • a part of the family of God, you have a spiritually,
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  • medical responsibility to mend broken believers.
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  • You have the responsibility to put broken homes
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  • back together and broken hearts back together
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  • and broken hopes back together.
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  • I'm not the only doctor in the house.
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  • So let's just take this analogy.
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  • Okay, let me tell you what Paul is saying here.
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  • Let's suppose you're walking down the street,
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  • and you come on this guy-- let's say it's a guy.
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  • He's on the sidewalk and you're a doctor and you automatically
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  • realize what's happened.
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  • You don't know how it happened, but this guy has a broken arm
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  • or this guy has a broken leg.
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  • Alright, let me ask you a question.
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  • So what does that guy need?
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  • At that moment, right?
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  • Now I mean he's writhing in pain, his arm's broken,
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  • his leg's broken.
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  • What does that person need?
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  • Well before you tell you what he does need, let me tell you some
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  • things he doesn't need.
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  • He doesn't need you to rejoice over his broken leg.
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  • You say well what do you mean?
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  • Sometimes, let's be honest, we're kinda glad
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  • when somebody falls.
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  • We're kinda glad when somebody blows it.
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  • Preachers are really bad about this.
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  • Some high-brow you know, celebrity pastor falls.
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  • And there are a lot of pastors out there secretly goin' I'm
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  • so glad that guy fell.
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  • I never did like that guy.
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  • Got a bigger church than I do; got a bigger ministry than I do.
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  • Man, that's another one you can take off the shelf.
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  • We don't need to rejoice when somebody's broken.
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  • Tell you something else.
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  • We don't need to rebuke someone who's broken.
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  • You know the last thing you know-- don't you love this?
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  • You come up on a guy with a broken arm.
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  • First thing you do is you say, well, been looking at where you
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  • were goin,' you wouldn't've broken your arm.
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  • You'd've been watching for the red light, you wouldn't
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  • have broken your leg.
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  • Shame on you.
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  • No, they don't need you to preach to them, lecture them,
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  • tell them it's their fault, you weren't watching what you were
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  • doing, where you were walking, you weren't paying attention.
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  • In other words, we don't need to throw rocks at them or kick
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  • them when they're down, they don't need that.
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  • I'll tell you something else they don't need.
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  • We don't need to rejoice, we don't need to rebuke, we don't
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  • need to report their broken arm.
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  • We're not to go tell everybody else have you heard
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  • about that guy?
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  • Do you know what's going on in his life right now?
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  • And oh, by the way, while we're in the neighborhood, I didn't
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  • want to say this for a long time 'cause I know some people think
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  • people like me are stupid sometimes, let me just kinda set
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  • you straight.
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  • Don't try to camouflage your gossip by calling it
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  • a prayer request.
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  • I'm not that stupid.
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  • You know, we do that.
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  • Hey, don't tell anybody, but we need to pray for this brother.
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  • Don't tell anybody, but we need to pray for this sister.
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  • No, by the way I'm telling you.
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  • No.
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  • When you find someone that's broken, they don't need
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  • to be rejoiced over.
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  • They don't need to be rebuked.
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  • They don't need to be reported.
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  • They need to be restored.
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  • They need that broken bone to be set.
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  • So here's the point.
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  • When you find someone who has sinned, they blown it, you
  • 00:10:20.270 --> 00:10:24.120
  • haven't blown it but they blow it; you're not where they are.
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  • The only person you ought to talk to, the only two people
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  • you ought to talk to, is that person and God.
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  • You don't need to really talk about anybody
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  • or to anybody else.
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  • And you see, our job is this: we're to set that arm, we're
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  • to help to get back on their feet 'cause there's nothing more
  • 00:10:39.220 --> 00:10:42.150
  • biblical, there's nothing more like Jesus
  • 00:10:42.160 --> 00:10:45.130
  • than biblical bone setting.
  • 00:10:45.140 --> 00:10:47.230
  • And oh, by the way, Paul says something very interesting.
  • 00:10:47.240 --> 00:10:50.030
  • Paul said, "When you see someone who is not in the spiritual
  • 00:10:50.040 --> 00:10:53.280
  • condition they should be in, the way you respond to them will
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  • determine the spiritual condition you're in."
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  • 'Cause he said those--
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  • You know who ought to be restoring these people?
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  • He said those of you who are living by the Spirit.
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  • Those who live by the Spirit.
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  • You are the ones who should restore.
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  • Then it says you who are spiritual.
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  • You know why Paul said that?
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  • Do you know what God wants for every unbeliever who's never
  • 00:11:16.260 --> 00:11:19.240
  • come to God?
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  • He wants us to bring them to God.
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  • Do you know what God wants for every believer who's fallen
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  • away from God?
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  • He wants us to bring them back to God.
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  • And if you've got that in your heart, if you've got a fire
  • 00:11:29.020 --> 00:11:31.120
  • in your heart just say: Lord, when I meet someone that needs
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  • to be reconciled, let me reconcile them to you.
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  • Lord, when I meet someone that needs to be restored,
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  • let me restore them to you.
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  • Then you can know I am living by the spirit.
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  • So Paul says when a believer is burdened, we are to gladly
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  • restore that brother.
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  • But then Paul does says something else, it's so wise.
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  • He says also we are to gently reclaim burdened believers.
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  • Now, listen to what Paul says.
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  • Here's a believer, fallen away from God, caught in a sin.
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  • We have a biblical term for that.
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  • It starts with a B, it's called backslidden.
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  • So Paul says, okay, you've got a believer here,
  • 00:12:13.220 --> 00:12:15.210
  • they are backslidden.
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  • They have fallen away from God.
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  • Paul says, okay, not only you to take your doctor's bag to his
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  • house, but he reminds us of something.
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  • And I don't know about you, there are two things I always
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  • look for a doctor.
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  • My personal physician's here this morning, just walked
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  • in the door a while ago.
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  • There are two reasons why I love my doctor,
  • 00:12:32.290 --> 00:12:34.080
  • number one: we're the best of buds.
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  • But two reasons why I love my doctor.
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  • Alright, number one: he's a good doctor,
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  • he knows what he's doing, okay?
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  • And that's important, right? Okay.
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  • That's why I don't go to mechanic when I'm sick.
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  • I want a guy knows what he's doing.
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  • Number two: he's got a great bedside manner.
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  • He takes time.
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  • He doesn't treat me like a number, he treats me like--
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  • You know I'm really-- and not just 'cause I'm his pastor,
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  • I'm his friend.
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  • That's the two things I want in a doctor, A: You know what
  • 00:12:57.040 --> 00:12:58.140
  • you're doing, B: You have a great bedside manner.
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  • Paul says the same thing.
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  • He says oh, by the way, if you're going to restore a broken
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  • brother or broken sister, not just what you do is important
  • 00:13:05.080 --> 00:13:08.250
  • but how you do it and the way you do it is important.
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  • So he says this, he says restore that person gently.
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  • So you know this.
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  • If you don't, let me clue you in.
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  • If you ever come upon someone and their leg is broken,
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  • I mean the bone sticking out of the skin, right?
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  • Or their arm is broken.
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  • Don't do this.
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  • Hey, I can help you.
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  • Boom!
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  • Don't do that.
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  • That's not what you do.
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  • What they need more than anything at that moment is
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  • a tender touch.
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  • And what Paul is saying is this.
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  • The last thing that a burdened believer needs us
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  • under the burden of sin, they're living in sin, they fall away
  • 00:13:49.050 --> 00:13:51.180
  • from God.
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  • The last thing they need is some high brow, hypocritical,
  • 00:13:53.000 --> 00:13:56.080
  • hypercritical Pharisee hosing him down with the acid
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  • of condemnation.
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  • 'Cause let me tell ya something the church
  • 00:14:02.070 --> 00:14:03.160
  • has been really good at,
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  • and I've seen it happen too many times.
  • 00:14:04.270 --> 00:14:06.070
  • We are great at shooting our wounded.
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  • We are really great at piling on when somebody is down.
  • 00:14:10.060 --> 00:14:13.250
  • And by the way, that's why so many people who fall
  • 00:14:13.260 --> 00:14:16.210
  • into sin, who claim to be believers, but they somehow get
  • 00:14:16.220 --> 00:14:20.110
  • into this trap of alcoholism or addiction, or adultery
  • 00:14:20.120 --> 00:14:23.220
  • or fornication, or bitterness or pornography.
  • 00:14:23.230 --> 00:14:26.050
  • You know what happens the vast majority of the time?
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  • They don't come back to the church.
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  • You know why they don't come back to the church?
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  • Two reasons.
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  • Number one, they're ashamed.
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  • And number two, they're afraid.
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  • They're ashamed of what they've done,
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  • they're ashamed of how they've fallen,
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  • and they're also afraid of how the church will respond.
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  • How will we look at them?
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  • Will we just talk about them?
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  • Will we just ignore them?
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  • And that's why, you know what happens to a lot
  • 00:14:48.150 --> 00:14:50.010
  • of these people?
  • 00:14:50.020 --> 00:14:51.210
  • They don't go to church when they got a problem.
  • 00:14:51.220 --> 00:14:53.020
  • They go to the bar, and you know why they go to the bar?
  • 00:14:53.030 --> 00:14:55.060
  • 'Cause they know they'll find more love and sympathy
  • 00:14:55.070 --> 00:14:56.270
  • at the bar than they do at the church.
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  • Paul says we need to restore these people gently.
  • 00:14:59.240 --> 00:15:04.000
  • So I want to say something to all of us beginning with me.
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  • I've had a problem all of my life.
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  • I guess I'll have it all my life and frankly I don't feel bad
  • 00:15:08.200 --> 00:15:12.140
  • because you've got this problem as well, and if you don't think
  • 00:15:12.150 --> 00:15:15.140
  • you do, you've really got the problem.
  • 00:15:15.150 --> 00:15:20.070
  • I have a tendency to always see the best in me and the worst
  • 00:15:20.080 --> 00:15:25.200
  • in others.
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  • Have you ever noticed how we're quick to give ourselves
  • 00:15:27.230 --> 00:15:29.280
  • the benefit of the doubt?
  • 00:15:29.290 --> 00:15:32.010
  • But not so quick to give somebody else the benefit
  • 00:15:32.020 --> 00:15:34.030
  • of the doubt?
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  • Ain't that kind of interesting?
  • 00:15:35.140 --> 00:15:37.030
  • Now should we, when we see a stick in someone's eye,
  • 00:15:37.040 --> 00:15:40.030
  • pull it out?
  • 00:15:40.040 --> 00:15:41.130
  • Absolutely.
  • 00:15:41.140 --> 00:15:42.240
  • But Jesus is right.
  • 00:15:42.250 --> 00:15:44.040
  • You make sure you don't have a log in your eye first.
  • 00:15:44.050 --> 00:15:46.080
  • And that's why we need to restore burdened believers,
  • 00:15:46.090 --> 00:15:48.170
  • not just gently, but humbly.
  • 00:15:48.180 --> 00:15:50.130
  • You know why?
  • 00:15:50.140 --> 00:15:51.230
  • 'Cause Paul goes on to say this-- you talk about a great--
  • 00:15:51.240 --> 00:15:54.010
  • Paul was a master psychologist.
  • 00:15:54.020 --> 00:15:55.240
  • Here's what he said.
  • 00:15:55.250 --> 00:15:57.040
  • "But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted."
  • 00:15:57.050 --> 00:16:02.210
  • Now why would Paul have mean by that?
  • 00:16:02.220 --> 00:16:04.130
  • Here's what Paul was saying.
  • 00:16:04.140 --> 00:16:05.250
  • If you are a spiritual person, if you're living by the Holy
  • 00:16:05.260 --> 00:16:09.060
  • Spirit, if you're really walking with God, if you're really gonna
  • 00:16:09.070 --> 00:16:12.120
  • hitting on all eight cylinders with God, when you see
  • 00:16:12.130 --> 00:16:16.130
  • a backslidden believer, here's what you'll say first.
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  • What you will say first and who you say first to, will be this.
  • 00:16:23.020 --> 00:16:28.170
  • The first thing you will say will not be to that backslidden,
  • 00:16:28.180 --> 00:16:32.060
  • broken, burdened believer.
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  • The first thing you will say is...
  • 00:16:34.250 --> 00:16:37.280
  • to yourself.
  • 00:16:37.290 --> 00:16:39.220
  • And here's what you'll say: Except for the grace of God
  • 00:16:39.230 --> 00:16:44.070
  • I'd be there.
  • 00:16:44.080 --> 00:16:45.250
  • Except for the grace of God, I would be the one
  • 00:16:45.260 --> 00:16:47.290
  • that committed adultery.
  • 00:16:48.000 --> 00:16:50.000
  • Except for the grace of God, I'd be the one that stole money
  • 00:16:50.010 --> 00:16:52.220
  • from the business.
  • 00:16:52.230 --> 00:16:54.040
  • Except for the grace of God, I'd be the one hooked
  • 00:16:54.050 --> 00:16:56.140
  • on pornography.
  • 00:16:56.150 --> 00:16:57.250
  • Except for the grace of God.
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  • Let me tell you why.
  • 00:16:59.110 --> 00:17:00.230
  • Any sin a believer can fall into is a sin every believer
  • 00:17:00.240 --> 00:17:05.120
  • can fall into.
  • 00:17:05.130 --> 00:17:07.220
  • So let me just let me say to you this way.
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  • David, a man after God's own heart, committed adultery.
  • 00:17:12.120 --> 00:17:18.080
  • Your pastor can commit adultery.
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  • David, a man after God's own heart, had her husband killed.
  • 00:17:22.130 --> 00:17:27.190
  • I could have somebody killed.
  • 00:17:27.200 --> 00:17:30.220
  • Any sin that a believer can fall into, every believer
  • 00:17:30.230 --> 00:17:36.120
  • can fall into.
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  • When you realize that the situation could be reversed,
  • 00:17:38.030 --> 00:17:41.020
  • when you realize you could be the one lying flat on your back
  • 00:17:41.030 --> 00:17:44.200
  • then you'll approach that person with a spirit of humility
  • 00:17:44.210 --> 00:17:46.290
  • and gentleness.
  • 00:17:47.000 --> 00:17:48.090
  • So here's what Paul said.
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  • Paul said when you come up on somebody
  • 00:17:49.210 --> 00:17:51.000
  • and they're broken, they're burdened,
  • 00:17:51.010 --> 00:17:52.190
  • they've blown it, they messed up,
  • 00:17:52.200 --> 00:17:54.220
  • they know they've messed up, you know they messed up,
  • 00:17:54.230 --> 00:17:57.210
  • you both know they've messed up--
  • 00:17:57.220 --> 00:17:59.010
  • Paul said if you're spiritual, you don't walk up to them
  • 00:17:59.020 --> 00:18:01.170
  • with a pointed finger.
  • 00:18:01.180 --> 00:18:04.250
  • You walk up to them with a helping hand.
  • 00:18:04.260 --> 00:18:07.220
  • Brother, how can I restore you?
  • 00:18:07.230 --> 00:18:09.210
  • How can I get you back on your feet?
  • 00:18:09.220 --> 00:18:13.010
  • But then Paul says something else, and this is so good.
  • 00:18:13.020 --> 00:18:15.180
  • He doesn't leave any stone unturned.
  • 00:18:15.190 --> 00:18:18.040
  • He then says thirdly, we are to graciously rebuild
  • 00:18:18.050 --> 00:18:21.160
  • burdened believers.
  • 00:18:21.170 --> 00:18:23.070
  • Now let me tell you why this is so good.
  • 00:18:23.080 --> 00:18:25.090
  • Paul actually does something you 'bout might would notice if
  • 00:18:25.100 --> 00:18:27.250
  • you're just reading this on your own.
  • 00:18:27.260 --> 00:18:29.130
  • He actually shifts gears from verse 1 to verse 2.
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  • He actually goes from one kind of burden to another kind
  • 00:18:32.130 --> 00:18:35.100
  • of burden.
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  • Listen what he says in verse 2.
  • 00:18:36.220 --> 00:18:38.010
  • He says, "Carry each others' burdens, and in this way you
  • 00:18:38.020 --> 00:18:43.020
  • will fulfill the law of Christ."
  • 00:18:43.030 --> 00:18:46.050
  • Now remember I told you at the beginning of the message,
  • 00:18:46.060 --> 00:18:48.010
  • there are two types of burdens that believers bear.
  • 00:18:48.020 --> 00:18:50.170
  • Some believers bear the burden of sin and shame.
  • 00:18:50.180 --> 00:18:53.250
  • Some believers bear the burden of sorrow and suffering.
  • 00:18:53.260 --> 00:18:57.280
  • Well Paul's already dealt with the first burden.
  • 00:18:57.290 --> 00:18:59.150
  • Here's a guy walked into a tempting situation,
  • 00:18:59.160 --> 00:19:03.000
  • didn't do what he should've done, he blew it, he fell flat
  • 00:19:03.010 --> 00:19:05.290
  • on his face, he messed up.
  • 00:19:06.000 --> 00:19:08.200
  • Paul's dealt with that.
  • 00:19:08.210 --> 00:19:10.130
  • But then he said you know, but there's another kind
  • 00:19:10.140 --> 00:19:12.010
  • of burden that believers get under.
  • 00:19:12.020 --> 00:19:14.290
  • And in fact they even have a big sign on their heart and it says
  • 00:19:15.000 --> 00:19:17.220
  • help wanted.
  • 00:19:17.230 --> 00:19:19.210
  • And that's not the burden of sin and shame.
  • 00:19:19.220 --> 00:19:22.110
  • That is the burden of sorrow and suffering.
  • 00:19:22.120 --> 00:19:25.180
  • And these are burdens that we all carry at sometime in life.
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  • The burden of depression.
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  • The burden of discouragement.
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  • The burden of divorce.
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  • The burden of disease.
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  • The burden of the death of a loved one.
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  • And the assumption behind this verse is, you know what?
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  • We all have burdens in life.
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  • Nobody gets through life burden free.
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  • We all get burdens.
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  • We all have to carry things.
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  • The first person we almost always take our burdens are
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  • is to Jesus, okay?
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  • I want you to I mean, that's the default, right?
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  • Jesus is the best burden bearer there is in history.
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  • But did you know that one of the ways that God uses
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  • to bear our burdens is through bringing other believers
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  • into our life to help bear that burden.
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  • Why do you think God's given us the friends that we have?
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  • Why do you think God's given us a relationship with
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  • that we have?
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  • Why do you think you're in this church?
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  • When my mom, toward the end of her life, 'bout the last
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  • 18 months to 2 years.
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  • I never went to see my mom.
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  • Never went to see my mom.
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  • She wouldn't say something like this.
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  • Now, son, I don't ever want to be a burden to you.
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  • I want to look after myself as long as I can, but when I can no
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  • longer look after myself and I become a burden,
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  • I'd rather just die.
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  • She told me that all the time.
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  • And there was a time I used to say mom, that's so noble.
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  • And that is so sweet.
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  • That is so courageous.
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  • And then one day it hit me, but it's just wrong.
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  • So I'm going to tell you something you've never heard
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  • a preacher say.
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  • But I'm going to tell you it is so true from this passage.
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  • You ready for this?
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  • We are all custom designed by our creator to be a burden
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  • to other people.
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  • We are all custom designed to be a burden to other people.
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  • If you have a toddler at home, keep that mind.
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  • All right, now listen.
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  • You were designed to be a burden to me.
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  • I was designed to be a burden to you.
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  • And one of the responsibilities of family members is to bear
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  • each other's burdens.
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  • Listen, if you don't think that's true, why do you think
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  • Jesus came to planet Earth?
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  • He came for one reason.
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  • To bear the burden of our sin.
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  • That's why he came.
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  • We had a burden we couldn't carry.
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  • Jesus said, "I'll take it off your plate."
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  • And here's the good news, because he bore the burden
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  • of our sin, we can enjoy the blessing of his salvation.
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  • And that ought to change the way we think about burdens.
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  • Now let me tell you why.
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  • When you are bearing burdens, you're really sharing blessings.
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  • When you're bearing burdens, you're really sharing blessings.
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  • No believer is ever a burden to another believer.
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  • And if you refuse to allow others to share your burden, you
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  • are robbing them of the blessing of sharing that burden
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  • and bearing that burden.
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  • Because here's the truth.
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  • Nobody's immune to burdens.
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  • None of us are immune to the burdens of suffering
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  • and sorrow.
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  • 'Cause one day it may be you that gets the pink slip.
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  • One day it may be you that gets the phone call
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  • at three o'clock in the morning from the police.
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  • One day it may be you that gets the bad report from the doctor.
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  • One day it may be you that's served with divorce papers.
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  • And when that happens two things better be true.
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  • There better be believers that are holy enough to bear that
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  • burden with you.
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  • But you better make sure you're humble enough to share that
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  • burden with that believer.
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  • It's a two-way street.
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  • Don't ever think this is a trivial matter.
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  • You say, well, you know, I hear what you're saying,
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  • but you know, I'm a proud guy. I'm a Marine.
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  • You know, I'm a Navy SEAL. I'm this, I'm that.
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  • I'm a hunk of hunk of burning love.
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  • And you know I got this by myself.
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  • Let me tell you something.
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  • Don't blow me off.
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  • I'm going to tell you why.
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  • When somebody has a burden and we know they've got
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  • a burden, and we don't step up and bear that burden, or if
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  • you're the one that's got the burden, and you don't sit
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  • down and let somebody else share that burden.
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  • Can I tell you what we both just did?
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  • We both broke the law.
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  • Say, what law?
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  • Paul said bear one another's burdens
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  • "and so fulfill the law of Christ."
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  • What does the law of Christ?
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  • To love one another.
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  • And when we see a burdened believer, doesn't matter whether
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  • they're burdened with sin and shame
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  • or they're burdened with sorrow and suffering--
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  • If we go like this, if we say I'm not getting involved, I
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  • don't have the time, it's not my problem, it's too messy,
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  • let somebody else do it, that's fine.
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  • Understand, you just broke the law.
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  • You broke the law of Christ.
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  • You broke the law of love.
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  • If we keep our burden a secret, if we refuse to ask for help, if
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  • we just wallow in our sin and our shame, or if we hide our
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  • sorrow and our suffering, we break the law of love.
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  • So here's the point.
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  • So what's-- what about so passionate--
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  • Pastor, what are you saying?
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  • I'm not so much concerned that were the biggest church in this
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  • county or in this country or this state.
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  • I mean, I want numbers, I wanna see this place packed.
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  • I'd love see it filled.
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  • I love see standing room only and that's our goal.
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  • That's our desire.
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  • A lot of people to be saved.
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  • But I can lay my head on my pillow at night if I know that
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  • anybody can walk into this building, whether they're gay
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  • or straight, whether living a celibate life or they're
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  • sleeping with 15 women at the same time.
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  • Where the dirtiest thing they read is a comic book or they're
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  • knee deep into pornography.
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  • I want people to walk into this church and know they'll find
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  • the tender loving care of a savior who died for us.
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  • go to TouchingLives.org.
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  • James Merritt: Can you think of someone in your circle
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  • of friends or your family right now who has maybe fallen away
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  • from the Lord or gotten away from the church?
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  • Chances are there's someone on your mind right now.
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  • The good news is that Paul tells us exactly what we should do
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  • to help these people.
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  • The key is compassion, because compassion will drive us to stay
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  • in touch, to restore, offer helping hands to our hurting
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  • brothers and sisters, and in doing those things,
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  • you'll help carry their burdens, and God willing, lead these
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  • people back into full fellowship with Jesus.
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  • I want to tell you how grateful I am that you chose to watch
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  • this program today.
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  • Please pray for us.
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  • I look forward to seeing you again right here next week
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  • for another episode of Touching Lives.
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